S3 E21 | A Peek Inside a Therapist’s Marriage with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle“People seldom improve when they have no other model but themselves to copy.”

That idea, attributed to Oliver Goldsmith, reminds me that having friends with healthy marriages is a great way to keep my own marriage strong and healthy.

That’s one of the reasons we interview couples like Zach and Rebecca Brittle. You may remember Zach Brittle from Season 2, Episode 4 when he shared his perspective as a Marriage and Family Therapist about how we can find romance in our everyday interactions with each other.

In Season 3, we’ve been more focused on sharing stories of real married couples and I really wanted to hear from his wife! Tony and I had spent some time with Zach and Rebecca a few months ago, and they were so full of hope and practicality, that we decided to invite them over again and this time we put microphones in front of their faces.
S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

Zach often jokes that he and Rebecca have been happily married for 19 out of 20 years. Well, in this interview, Tony didn’t let him get away with this joke. I’m so glad Tony asked some bold questions and so thankful that Zach and Rebecca were willing to share about the hardest seasons in their 20 year marriage along with some hope and insights for those of us who have yet to cross that incredible milestone.

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep21: A Peek Inside a Therapist’s Marriage with Zach and Rebecca Brittle” on Spreaker.

 

Not only is Zach Brittle a pro, he is also super generous.
Zach’s offering our #staymarried community this fantastic resource for FREE.
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Every person who downloads this free gift will also be entered to win lifetime access to Zach’s online marriage course: Marriage in Motion.
Normally this course costs at least $397, but one of you is getting access for FREE! Can you tell I’m a little excited for you?

20 Questions for Deeper Connection by Zach Brittle

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S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

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Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E20 | The Positive Perspective

A Positive Perspective Could Make All The Difference #staymarriedIt’s natural to feel the impact of negative interactions more intensely than the positive ones. But, if we want to enjoy our marriages for decades to come, we need to learn the practice and benefits of developing a positive perspective.

In this episode we break down what we’ve learned from Dr. John Gottman and others about this essential marriage ingredient.

 

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E20: The Positive Perspective” on Spreaker.

 

For more about the Positive Perspective, check out this article on The Gottman Blog by Zach Brittle:

The Positive Perspective

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E17 | The Problem with Your Soulmate

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarriedMany of us imagine that marriage should come naturally… if we’re with the right person. So, if it’s difficult, we figure it might be because we are with the wrong person. We see this theme a lot when we look through the questions you’ve submitted at Ask #staymarried.

Today we are reaching back to the archives from Season 2 of The #staymarried Podcast when Tony and I answered Nikki’s question, “How do I know if we’re meant to be together or if it’s for the best if we go our separate ways?”

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E17: The Problem with Your Soulmate” on Spreaker.

The problem with the soul mate mentality is that none of us really are the right person for anyone else. We each come into our marriages with our own set of weird habits, temper triggers, and childhood traumas. Even great marriages, where two people are as compatible as any two people ever could be, still require work. Marriage becomes a journey, not only to discover more about the person we’ve committed our lives to, but also to discover ourselves.The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

We would love to know what you think of soul mates! How do you approach this idea in your own marriage? Have you been in Nikky’s shoes, wondering whether or not you married the right one? Comment below and let us know if you have any insight or words of wisdom for us or for Nikky. One thing we know for sure is that we’re all just trying to figure this marriage thing out and find out if it’s possible to #staymarried.

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

Want to read more about this topic? Check these out…

Does Marriage Really Have to Be Hard Work?
♥ Six Conversations Every Couple Must Have

 The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.
Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E16 | The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarriedOnce upon a time I noticed that #staymarried had a growing Muslim audience. Knowing basically nothing about the Muslim faith or culture, and wanting not to squander an opportunity to learn to help more peole have happy and healthy marriages, I set out on a quest to learn.

That quest led me to today’s guest, Menahal Begawala. “Mena” is a Gottman Certified Therapist practicing in New York. She is also the co-athor of the Islamic Reference Guide for the Gottman Method.

We learned so much from her, not just about marriage withing the Muslim community, but about the basic tennents of what makes any marriage strong enough to go the distance.

Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 Ep16: The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage” on Spreaker.

 

You can find out more about Menahal and her counseling practice at menahal.com

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarried

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E15 | Estranged: Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members

Estranged - Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members #staymarriedFamily relationships can be complicated. In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we answer a question from Ask #staymarried:

“Hey there Tony and Michelle,
My name is Tony also and my wife and I have been married for 8 years. Our marriage is strong and I have to say that listening to your podcasts is refreshing because of your candor and transparency. Here’s something I haven’t heard you two talk about and was wondering if you would consider addressing… estranged relationships with your parents.

My wife’s family is far away and we don’t see them much, but my family is fairly close yet are not very involved in our lives. We have a little boy and an even littler girl, and I sometimes wonder if my parents even care. I think I’d like for our kids to have doting grandparents like our friends around us seem to have, but I’m not sure if this is realistic. Do you think this absence is going to hurt our family in the future? You guys seem happy… do you have grandparents you want to loan us?”

Mr. Tony, we wish we had grandparents to loan you. Instead, we’ll share how we navigate our own tough family members. We hope it helps…

Listen to “S3 Ep15: Estranged” on Spreaker.

Also, Tony asked me if there was a book I’ve read multiple times. I shared two, and he shared one of his own. Here are the links.

Michelle’s Rec’s

Them – by Joyce Carol Oates

Them - Joyce Carol Oates

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by Dr. John Gottman

 

Tony’s Rec

The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E14 | Modern Kinship with David & Constantino

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarriedIf you’ve been following along on this third season of The #staymarried Podcast, you know we have not only been sharing insights from relationship experts, but we have also sprinkled in stories of real married couples.

While there is much to learn from the research about what makes a marriage work, nothing truly takes the place of hearing from other couples as they navigate life and love on their own terms.

We are thrilled to share with you the love story and marriage insights from our friends David and Constantino Khalaf, a Gay Christian Couple living in Portland, Oregon. We hope you enjoy them as much as we have.

 

Listen to “S3 Ep14: Modern Kinship, Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple” on Spreaker.

 

Here’s the Lookout Tower – Off the Grid and Forty Feet Up! – from Airbnb where Constantino proposed to David.

Lookout Tower on AirBnb - Modern Kinship on #staymarried

One of my favorite parts of this conversation happened at the end, when David shared that learning to love Constantino in the way he best received love, not necessarily the way that comes most naturally to David, was the real work of love. They may be newlyweds, but they’ve certainly figured out a few things.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

As we mentioned in the show, Constantino is the Director of Operations at the Gay Christian Network, an organization that works to build bridges between the LGBTQ Community and the church. You can find out more about this organization and ways you can get involved here.

You can find out more about David and Constantino’s life and love at their blog Modern Kinship and follow them on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Feel free to leave a comment for them, or for us, below.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple with David and Constantino Khalaf - #staymarried

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

Wedding Photos by Lehua Noelle

Dave and Tino also had some kind things to say about The #staymarried Book.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

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And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

Ten Lessons from Ten Years of Marriage

10 Lessons from 10 Years of Marriage - #staymarriedTen years ago, I stood in front of a man I’d fallen in love with and committed to spend the rest of my days learning to create a life together. I was all aflutter that day, couldn’t imagine being happier, luckier, or more hopeful about the future. I had no idea!

Since then, Tony and I have sold all our belongings and moved across the country TWICE, and we’re about to do it again. We’ve brought three of the best people I know into the world, our sweet daughters. We’ve experienced the crushing pain of major depression and the gloriousness of healing and finding joy again.

We’ve learned more than a handful of things over these ten years. As I reflect back on this wild and wonderful life, I thought I’d share some of those lessons with you.

10 Lessons from 10 Years of Marriage

1. A little kindness goes a long way.

Being a grown-up comes with so many have-to’s. But, being kind to your partner isn’t one of them. You could bring them an unexpected cup of coffee. You could text them a sweet “thinking of you” message. You could rub their shoulders. You could offer them 15 guilt-free minutes without the kids around. Today, you and I get to figure out a way to show and tell the most important person in our lives that we love them. It’s not a “have-to,” it’s a “get-to.”

2. Our relationship with each other is more important than our relationship with our kids.

We love our kids like crazy, but we know the best thing we can do for them is to take care of each other first! We’re in the thick of it with 3 little ones but someday it’ll be just the two of us again and we need to make sure we’ve loved each other well all along so that we don’t feel like strangers when we become empty nesters. Plus, building a strong relationship with each other adds to a sense of security and confidence for our kids. It’s a win-WIN!

4 Ways to Handle Parenting Disagreements - #staymarried

3. Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Isn’t it great when you can learn lessons from OTHER PEOPLE’S experiences. Some wise friends told us early on that not every battle is worth fighting and that we would spend more time enjoying each other if we chose wisely. Keeping kindness in mind, even when we disagree and both feel passionately, has kept our conflicts mostly out of the battle zone.

4. Defensiveness gets you nowhere.

Because we know each other so well, we also know how to push each other’s buttons. We’ve learned that getting defensive doesn’t help. When we’re feeling defensive, it’s a good indication that we need a break and we need to find another way to listen and be heard.

How Being Defensive is Hurting Your Marriage - #staymarried

5. Dreaming together is a necessity, not a luxury.

We each have our own dreams and ideas of what we want to do with our lives, but we make it a priority to share our dreams with each other before we share them with other people. This gives us the opportunity to cheer each other on every step of the way. We’ve looked for ways to sacrifice for each other in order to help make our dreams a reality. We’ve learned that nothing at all will ever come to fruition if we’re both being selfish instead of supportive.Four Types of Supportive Behavior and how to Identify the One You Need - #staymarried

6. Curiosity is a relationship booster.

I’m not the same person I was when we first met and neither is he. Staying curious about each other, making time to ask good questions (like we do at the beginning of each episode of The #staymarried Podcast) and then really listening and learning keeps us engaged in our relationship instead of drifting away assuming we already know all there is to know.

7. Expectations without clear communication leads to conflict.

We have to be able to communicate what we want. I resisted this for along time, thinking it would be better and I would feel more loved if my husband figured out what I wanted on his own and then did it because he wanted to, not because I asked him to. The truth is, if I don’t ask, I don’t get, and that goes for everything from presents to help around the house to sex. Being brave and asking has made our lives so much better.

"Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable... Brene Brown quote on #staymarried

8. Even great marriages go through really crappy times.

We’ve had our share of rough seasons. There were times when I thought we would never see eye-to-eye, never find a solution, never get back to those first feelings of love. We’ve gotten through those seasons, but I’m sure they’ll come again. That doesn’t mean we need to call it quits. What we have together is fundamentally good, but that doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy.

9. You’re never justified for being a jerk.

The question is not whether or not you should argue with your spouse. The question is how will you argue? Will you be respectful while you argue, avoiding low-blows, name-calling, and ultimatums? Will you approach believing your partner is guilty before they’ve had a chance to explain themselves OR with the intention of giving your partner the benefit of the doubt? It’s okay to be angry. It’s never okay to be cruel.

10. Apologize and forgive often.

Sometimes you will be a jerk. Sometimes you won’t realize it until after the damage to your relationship has already been inflicted. As much as Tony and I value kindness and respect, neither of us will ever be perfect. Keeping a good rhythm of forgivness has carried us through some of our most challenging times.

7 Ways to Be a Better Forgiver - a #staymarried blog for couples

11. Marriages succeed in community and fail in isolation.

A great marriage starts with a solid friendship. But, even if your partner really is your best friend, your partner was never meant to fullfill all of your relational needs. Make every effort to spend time with your friends with or without your partner.  Making sure you’ve built and kept a close community of people is one of the best things you can do to ensure your marriage lasts to ten years and beyond.

10 Lessons from 10 Years of Marriage - #staymarried

Yes, I know I promised you ten lessons, and here I gave you eleven. But, let that remind you that a little extra effort and generosity are never wasted.

This tenth year of marriage has been a beautiful reminder that we couldn’t have come this far, we wouldn’t have made it to ten whole years, without our incredible community loving and supporting us every step of the way.

We’ve shared all of this with you over the years here on The #staymarried Blog and The #staymarried Podcast and have been received with such grace. Ten years have come and gone, there is much to celebrate, and still, it feels like we are just at the beginning. We’re grateful.

The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

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Does Marriage Really Have to be Hard Work? – #staymarried blog
♥ Your Baggage Doesn’t Have to Wreck Your Marriage – #staymarried Podcast

 

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post. You can also find us on the socials: PinterestTwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms.

Thank you ever so much for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

S3 E13 | What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer

What does your Relationship Reveal? - with Sandra Fischer on The #staymarried PodcastBeing a writer and podcaster that focuses on marriage has a TON of perks! For instance, when people think their relationship resources might benefit our #staymarried community, guess who they reach out to give it a whirl? ME! That’s who! And then, when it’s a good one, not only does my marriage benefit, but you know I’m going to share those resources with you!

Sandra Fischer, creator of the new card game Relationship Reveal, is a professional writer and consultant with a diverse background specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness. With 25 years working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been unique and broad and she’s poured every bit of that into this fantastic resource.

Listen as we chat with Sandra about this unique game, and then hear from our friends Josh & Katy of Episode 12 fame as they share their experience with it, too.

Listen to “S3 Ep13: What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer” on Spreaker.

Did you listen? Don’t you want to try Relationship Reveal yourself? You can find out more about it and order your box here: Relationship Reveal.

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E11 | Unfaithful: The Little Things that Lead to Big Betrayal

Unfaithful - The Little Things That Lead To Big Betrayal - #staymarriedWhen people talk about unfaithfulness, they aren’t typically talking about the lack of small acts of faithfulness that make up a life together. They mean – and will interchangeably use the word – infidelity.

Nothing rocks a marriage like infidelity. But, infidelity is not typically where the problems start. Instead, it’s often the culmination of little betrayals over time.

In this episode we discuss the interplay between faithfulness, trustworthiness, and simple habits. It really is the little things that make such a big difference in a marriage. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep11: Unfaithful – The Little Things that Lead to Big Betrayal” on Spreaker.

We discussed an article on the science of habits. You can read more on that here.

Also, The #staymarried Book is now available everywhere!

#staymarried: A Couple's Devotional by Michelle Peterson

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Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E10 | Couple Checkup: Knowing Your Relationship Strengths

Couple Checkup - Knowing Your Relationship Strengths #staymarried

If the name “PREPARE/ENRICH” sounds familiar, it may be because it was recommended to you as a part of pre-marital counseling at some point.

PREPARE/ENRICH has a long history of supporting couples. It was founded in 1980 after years of research by Family Science pioneer Dr. David Olson. The Prepare/Enrich program was developed out of research done by Dr. Olson at the University of Minnesota. They are rooted and founded on research and highly value their scientifically valid assessment.

This is why we are so excited that they’ve decided to partner with us for the launch of The #staymarried Book. Tony and I took the assessment ourselves and learned so much and really believe Couple Checkup is a perfect partner to our Couple’s Devotional.

In this episode we share what we learned about our own relationship after taking the assessment. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep10: Couple Checkup – Knowing Your Relationship Strengths” on Spreaker.

We also talked about all of the other Pre-order Gifts we’ve been working on. If you order #staymarried: A Couple’s Devotional before May 23rd, you’ll get…

1. #staymarried Toolkit
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
The 2 Step Method to Learn and Practice Empathy Immediately
10 Ways to Think Like a Team (instead of treating each other like opponents)

2. Couple Checkup by Prepare Enrich
Get access to this personalized online assessment powered by over three decades of research, regularly $35, for just $14.95 with our exclusive discount code!

3. Unbox Love Date Box
Every pre-order will receive an exclusive discount code for $10 off your first date in a box delivered to your door.
+ A GIVEAWAY! 10 pre-orders will be randomly selected to win a custom date box for FREE!

4. Building Trust, Unlocking Intimacy
Access to a private Facebook Group where you’ll get to participate in an exclusive 5 Week Facebook Live Course with Tony and Michelle Peterson.

 

Ready to get these awesome gifts? All you have to do is forward your pre-order receipt to the following email address and we’ll send you everything. Send your receipt before May 23rd to: staymarried book at gmail dot com

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An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E8 | Fighting the Fray with John & Paige

Fighting the Fray with John & Paige on The #staymarried PodcastOver the years we have found so much value in simply listening to the stories of other married couples doing their best to make it work. John & Paige from Fighting the Fray lured un in with their relatable style and approachable ideas.

These two are the co creators of Fighting the Fray, a movement that exists to inspire greater acts of love in relationships, marriages, and homes. They are invested in showing that marriage is and can be awesome and that it is always worth fighting for. They are the proud parents of 2 children and live in Houston, Texas

Listen especially for their perspective on navigating a rocky start at a young age, the benefits of Marriage Mentors, and how they practically work as a team. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 E8: Fighting the Fray with John & Paige” on Spreaker.

You can find out more about Fighting The Fray by checking out their website www.fightingthefray.com, their Instagram page, or their youtube channel where they just released a new video entitled “8 things we’ve learned in 8 years of marriage.” You can contact with them by shooting them an email at hello@fightingthefray.com

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E7 | Teamwork: How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage

Teamwork - How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage on The #staymarried PodcastTeamwork.

We talk about teamwork and being on the same team all the time. But, in this episode, we answer a listener question about how we actually do it and why it works in our marriage. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 E7: Teamwork – How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage” on Spreaker.

I mention two main writerly resources in this episode.

Stephen King’s On Writing

Hope*Writers Online Community

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E6 | Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried PodcastIntimacy is a vital part of a healthy marriage. The biggest enemy of intimacy is shame, and sexual shame specifically has had a profoundly devastating effect on many of us.

In her new book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy, sex therapist and internationally recognized expert in religious sexual shame, Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD, gives us the tools and cultural competence to begin to find healing for the sexual shame holding us back from living fully into both our spiritual and sexual vitality.

We hope you enjoy this interview…

Listen to “S3 E6: Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers” on Spreaker.

 

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E5 | The Perils of our Late Night Fights

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast“Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

“Don’t go to bed angry.”

“Even if you’re mad, say I love you before you go to sleep.”

Haven’t we all heard some version of this marriage advice?

This Ask #staymarried qustion comes from Brooke. She says…

Hey Tony and Michelle, can you help me understand something?

My husband and I got into an argument the other night after the kids went to bed. I won’t even get into what it was about because it WAS SO DUMB. I was tired, I just wanted to go to bed, but we both kept saying awful things to each other. I finally told him I was done trying to figure it out, I needed to go to bed and sleep on it. But then he pulled out the big guns: he said what he always says in these situations…

“Nope. We are figuring this out. We can’t let the sun go down on our anger.”

So, then I felt guilty for wanting to go to sleep, but I also felt like everything I said didn’t make sense because I was so tired. Can you tell me why it’s so important to settle all your fights before you go to bed? I feel like I’m going crazy when things escalate so late at night and I just don’t get it.

Please help,
Brooke

 

Dearest Brooke,
Thanks for trusting us with this. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I did our best to bring some clarity to this age old advice. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E5: The Perils of Our Late Night Fights” on Spreaker.

My Darling, if you truly love me, please let me sleep. - The #staymarried Podcast

We love hearing from you! What sort of marriage advice have you tried to follow only to feel frustrated in the end?

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

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S3 E4 | The Newlywed Perspective with Nate and Angilyn Bagley

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The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried PodcastI remember feeling like we were taking advantage of our marriage mentors when we first got married. We asked them to help us, but we didn’t pay them. We were taking up their time, and they were generously pouring into our lives. I apologized a lot back then. Until one day Barabara (the best marriage mentor ever) told me how she felt about our time together.

“There’s something invigorating, something so sweet really, about spending time with newlyweds. There’s this fresh sense of love that is refreshing for us. Don’t be sorry for taking up our time. This is great for our marriage, too.”

I never forgot that, and now, nearly ten years into our own marriage and beginning to spend more time with newlyweds, I thoroughly agree. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I had a chance to sit down with a couple just five months into their marriage. Nate and Angilyn Bagley were such a delight and had so many fresh insights, I really hope you enjoy them as much as we did.

Listen to “S3 E4: The Newlywed Perspective with Angilyn and Nate Bagley” on Spreaker.

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Check out Nate’s newest project First 7 Years. Did you know that 50% of divorces happen within the first seven years of marriage? As an avid student of long-lasting love, Nate is on a journey to make his first seven years the BEST seven years and I think he can help you make your first seven years of marriage fantastic, too!

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You can find out more about this project and how you can get his tips and tools for creating a solid foundation for your marriage at first7years.com.

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E3 | Keeping the Promise – How Your Wedding Vows Impact Your Marriage

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“Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them,” I said.

“Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.”
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

I find it fascinating that at the beginning of this long journey of marriage, at the ceremony that transforms two lives into one, we exchange promises. We call them vows, and then we work for the rest of our lives trying to fulfill the promises we made.

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we talk about the significance of wedding vows, how they impact our marriages, and look through how different cultures view promises and ceremony. Tony also surprised me by asking if we could renew our own vows with all of you listening. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E3: Keeping the Promise – How Your Wedding Vows Impact Your Marriage” on Spreaker.

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Love is keeping the promise anyway. How your wedding vows impact your marriage on The #staymarried Podcast

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

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S3 E2 | Relationship Goals: How Millennial Couples Are Making It Last

Relationship Goals - How Millennial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried PodcastRelationship Goals - How Millennial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried Podcast
Millennial Couples are setting the bar higher than ever when it comes to what they expect in their relationships, and why shouldn’t they?

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we talk with Jay Cadet, a Relationship Coach who specializes in working with unmarried millennial couples. He shares his insights on how our media consumption influences our behavior in relationships as well as how couples can recover and thrive after something as devastating as infidelity.

Listen to “S3 E2: Relationship Goals – How Millenial Couples Are Making It Work with Jay Cadet” on Spreaker.

Jay Cadet is a Relationship Coach who helps unmarried, millennial couples build strong relationships they can feel confident committing to for the long haul. He lives in Harlem, NYC with his wife and son and typically can be found roaming around exploring the city, hanging out at museums, or hunting down the next burger joint to try out. He’s @JayCadet on Instagram and Twitter, and you can also come find him on Facebook.

Don’t forget to check out his incredible web course, A New Approach To Us where he has offered #staymarried listeners a 10% discount on the whole course by using the code: staymarried

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We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

 

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And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Welcome Back! Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast

Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast: Welcome Back!We left you all at the end of Season 2 of The #staymarried Podcast with the reminder that, sometimes we have to say NO to good things so that we can say YES to great things.

Well, we said YES to many great things over the break and now we’re back to tell you all about it.

In this episode, we share the latest about The #staymarried Book, where we are moving to and why, and what you can expect from Season 3. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 Ep1: Welcome Back!” on Spreaker.

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast: Welcome Back!

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

Is Your Marriage Dead? Or, Does it Just Appear That Way?

Is Your Marriage Dead? Or, does it just appear that way? Many people discover greater joy in their marriage after going through devastating hardship, as long as they don't make enemies of each other in the process. - #marriage #staymarried blog

“Girls, look ahead! The mountain is out, you can see it…”

This phrase, “the mountain is out,” is a very Pacific Northwest thing to say. Outside of the Seattle area, I’m not sure it would make much sense. But, for us locals, those four words beckon us to look up and notice a rare cloudless sky marked only by the beautiful face of Mount Rainier looking down happily on all of us. When the mountain is out, our collective spirits are lifted. We’ve made it through another storm and this beautiful view is our reward.

My three little daughters shifted their heads around from the backseat of our SUV as my husband, Tony, navigated down the 405. When Nora, our middle child, saw the mountain for herself, she began to shout, “I see it!” Then Claire called out, “Look, it’s so big! It looks closer.”

The freeway twisted and turned, and with a pleasant sigh Nora said, “That was beautiful.”

“It IS beautiful,” Claire corrected her, in true oldest sister fashion.

“Well,” Nora asserted, “It WAS beautiful when I could see it. But, I can’t see it anymore.”

I wondered then, from my vantage point in the front seat, if Nora really thought the mountain wasn’t beautiful anymore.

Do beautiful things cease to be beautiful when we can no longer see the beauty ourselves?

Emily's Orchid
It reminded me of something my friend Emily said at the beginning of the year. She shared this photo of an orchid on Instagram and with it she wrote:

“This is the orchid my husband bought me for our anniversary last July. The original blooms held on until sometime in November before falling into the kitchen sink (this window sill is just behind my faucet). For a stretch, I just let it be. Watered it every now and then, even though it looked like dead sticks pushed up out of the dirt. Then in December, I had a passing thought to look up how to care for it more intentionally, which consisted of carefully pruning two little branches. It didn’t seem like anything was happening for weeks, until buds started forming a week or two ago, and here you see a new delicate bloom about to emerge.

Because this orchid is symbolic of my marriage, I wanted to encourage those of you who might be in the ‘dead sticks’ season of your marriage. It is not easy to keep investing in a relationship that doesn’t feel like it is going well. I’ve been married 11.5 years to an incredible person, but we have hurt each other deeply at different times, and it has not been all roses…or orchids. But as we have taken tiny steps to tend to each other–to sacrifice what we can for the other’s benefit and communicate honestly about what we need–our love blooms again and again, for which I am grateful. I say a prayer for you who don’t feel like your partner knows your real heart, for those of you who don’t know how to bridge the distance or heal the hurt…May this year be one that you continue investing, continue tending the love you have committed yourself to, and may your marriage re-bloom in a beautiful and gentle way in 2017.”

It’s been a few months since Emily began tending to those dead sticks, and here is her orchid proudly displaying its beauty.

Emily's Orchid

Are you in a “dead sticks” season of your marriage? Are you staring at something that once was bright and beautiful and now looks dim and dying? How can you know if your marriage still has beauty in it, if it’s still worth tending to, or if it is actually already dead?

Research from the Institute for American Values asserts that couples who push through a hard season report being happier five years after the strain than they were before. Look at what Mona Charen says in her article “Happy Marriages and Unhappy Divorces”…

“According to the survey conducted by a team of family researchers, unhappily married adults who divorced were no happier five years after the divorce than were equally unhappy marrieds who remained together. And two-thirds of unhappily married people who remained married reported that their marriages were happy five years later. Even among those who had rated their marriages as “very unhappy,” nearly 80 percent said they were happily married five years later. These were not merely bored or dissatisfied whiners. They had endured serious problems, including alcoholism, infidelity, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, depression, illness, and work and money troubles.”

In our nearly 10 years of marriage, my husband and I have traveled roads together that did not appear to be leading us to anything beautiful. We lost sight of our hopes and plans, we lost sight of each other. Still, we kept traveling and neither of us left the other behind. Many times I thought we might take separate exits on this marriage journey, but instead we held hands and kept looking forward. Eventually we were able to see the beauty again, like turning the corner on the 405 to see that majestic face of Mount Rainier or witnessing a bloom begin to emerge from a once very dead looking orchid.

The beauty never left our marriage. We found the beauty again by taking on some new perspectives on our perpetual issues. We found it again by taking the time to nurture fondness and admiration in the middle of our frustration with each other. We found it again when we decided to lay down our preferences and sacrifice instead. The beauty in our marriage never left, it was just out of sight for a little while.

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The beauty in our marriage never left, it was just out of sight for a little while. ~ Michelle Peterson

Every married couple experiences their share of pain, disconnection, betrayal, and extraordinary stress. Some discover that if they will push through together and not make enemies of each other in the process, the beauty they experience on the other side far surpasses anything they could have imagined for themselves.

If you’re in a tough season, I’m praying for you to have the strength to keep going, keep tending, keep nurturing, and keep investing in your relationship. I’m praying you’ll experience the beauty on the other side when you choose together to #staymarried.

Is Your Marriage Dead? Or, does it just appear that way? Many people discover greater joy in their marriage after going through devastating hardship, as long as they don't make enemies of each other in the process. - #staymarried

 

The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you found this post helpful, we would be honored if you would share it. Our big dream is to see more and more people living in happy and healthy marriages!

Interested in more posts like this? You might like…
10 Things to Try Before Giving Up on Your Marriage – The Gottman Institute
Does Marriage Really Have to be Hard Work? – #staymarried blog
♥ Your Baggage Doesn’t Have to Wreck Your Marriage – #staymarried Podcast

Emily AllenSpecial thanks to Emily Allen for allowing me to share her beautiful words and images here. Emily lives with her husband and six kids in Seattle, Washington. She is a contemplative, creative soul who celebrates the beauty of a humble, handmade life. Her days are full of laughs, epic messes, and lots of learning alongside her kids. She is the founder of Kindred Mom, a blog and an online community dedicated to helping women flourish in motherhood. Her personal blog is Light and Loveliness and she is on Instagram as @emily_sue_allen.

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Thank you ever so much for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

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12 Awesome Marriage Resources That Aren’t Books

Reading is hard.

I say that as someone who loves to read and loves to write. But reading IS hard, especially when we have so many things in our lives distracting us and making it tough to concentrate for very long on things like words on pages.

While I worked on the manuscript for The #staymarried Book, I found that I could not read anything else. I just couldn’t. I had books that I wanted to read, but opening one had the same appeal as lifting a 200 pound bar bell. Are they even called bar bells? I don’t know. I don’t work out. I’m probably not going to pick one up. Anyway, my poor tiny brain was overwhelmed by all the research and reading and writing I was doing, but I still wanted to absorb some marriage goodness.

So, whether you’re in a No-Books-For-Me season of your life, or you just naturally prefer other mediums, here are some of my favorite non-book marriage resources. {Hint: PIN THIS so you can come back to it later}

12 Awesome Marriage Resources That Aren’t Books

::Videos::

1. Fighting the Fray


John and Paige are the real couple behind Fighting the Fray, a new Vlog series on YouTube that I instantly fell in love with. I think you will, too. You can listen to our interview with them on The #staymarried Podcast hereI also follow their Instagram to keep the encouragement coming.

2. Naked Conversations

Naked Coneversations by Meygan and Casey Caston of Marriage 365These monthly interactive webcasts are brought to you by Meygan and Casey from Marriage 365. These two are so fun and practical, and they aren’t afraid to cover topics like oral sex hangups and forgiveness after betrayal.

 

Find out more here: Naked Conversations

3. Rethinking Infidelity

Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines infidelity in a way I’d never considered before. This video is so thought provoking, Tony and I have had many conversations about Perel’s perspective and how her thoughts correspond to the way we navigate our own relationship.

Esther Perel TED Rethinking Infidelity

 

 

::On-The-Go Encouragements::

4. The Marriage Minute

The Gottman Institute recently started sending out the handiest little newsletter called “The Marriage Minute.” It comes straight to my inbox, usually takes me less than 60 seconds to read, and always gives me some new insight or much needed reminder for my marriage. You can subscribe to it for free here. Here’s a snapshot from my own inbox. The Marriage Minute by The Gottman Institute

 

 

5. Jay Cadet’s Instagram

Jay Cadet, Relationship Coach, on InstagramIt’s no secret I love Instagram. Jay’s feed is geared toward those who are dating or engaged, but his clear wisdom has been great for me, too! You can (and SHOULD!) follow him here: Jay Cadet on Instagram. For more about Jay and his philosophy on love and marriage, you can catch his episode on The #staymarried Podcast here.

 

6. Sweet Wives Facebook Community

Ladies, this one is for you. The Sweet Wives Community is hosted by Chelsea Damon of Living the Sweet Wife. I stumbled across her blog browsing Pinterest and immediately signed up for the free private Facebook group. Chelsea posts encouragements and reminders a few times per week and it’s been so fun for me to hear from some of the other wives in the group about how they are bringing positivity and self-reflection into their own marriages. Check out her blog and sign up for the group here

Chelsea Damon Living the Sweet Wife

::Interactive Tools::

7. Relationship Reveal

Relationship Reveal on #staymarriedThis is a game unlike any other. Instead of finishing ahead of your opponent or scoring more points, the point of this “game” is to gain understanding – of yourself and your partner. Relationship Reveal was designed by Sandra Fischer, a professional writer and consultant with a diverse background specializing in communications, people development, and optimizing organizational effectiveness. Her expertise comes through in the design of the game. Tony and I took it with us on a weekend getaway and had one of the most revealing conversations we’ve ever had! You can find it here.

 

 

8. Find Your Love Language

Understanding the different ways you and your partner express and expect to receive love can do wonders for your connection with each other. Even if you’ve taken this assessment before, a refresher never hurts. Tony’s love languages have stayed mostly the same for as long as I’ve known him, but mine have changed a little over the years. You can sign up to take the free assessment here.

Five Love Languages Assessment on #staymarried

9. The Mini Love Map Game

Inspired by work we’ve done with The Gottman Institute, use the Mini Love Map Game the next time you have 20 uninterrupted minutes with your love. {Hint: PIN THIS so you can come back to it later}

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::Podcasts::

10. The Perfect Wife

This podcast is a fun spin off of another of our favorite podcasts, Marriage is Funny. In The Perfect Wife, host Jessie Pepper interviews wives about what’s making their marriages work. You can find out more here: The Perfect Wife 

The Perfect Wife Podcast on #staymarried

 

11. Marriage More

Jeff and Mandy Rose tackle everyday topics and interview other couples. You can find out more about them here, and definitely search for the Marriage More Podcast on iTunes or your favorite podcast player.

Marriage More Podcast

 

12. The Loveumentary

Nate Bagley is an ever evolving student of love and with this podcast he invites the rest of us along on his journey to discover that we don’t have to settle for mediocre love. In fact, I had a chance to chat with him myself, and he really is as fun and down-to-earth as he seems on his show. In this episode, Nate and I talked about Dream Building.
Nate Bagley Loveumentary

 

 

Wouldn’t it be silly if I didn’t mention the stay married resources WE offer?

The #staymarried Blog

Established in 2012 with this post. Here are a few of our most popular.

51 Little Ways to Build Your Marriage
Does Marriage Really Have to Be Hard Work?
The Best Apology – How to Say Sorry Like You Mean It

 

The #staymarried Podcast

We run our podcast in seasons and you can find them by searching “#staymarried” on iTunes or your favorite podcast app. We also keep an archive where we post additional resources for each episode.

In Season 1: The Seven Do’s and Four Don’ts for a Long and Happy Marriage, we took listeners through the principles found in the New York Times Bestseller by Dr. John Gottman called The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

In Season 2 we brought in Love Experts like Marriage and Family Therapists, our own Marriage Mentors, and even other marriage podcasters to answer questions submitted by our listeners. We covered everything from in-law struggles to why you need a tribe of people if you want your marriage to succeed.

In Season 3 we’ve been exploring marriage through the lense of story telling. We’ve invited real couples and experts onto the show, navigating everything from millenial marriages to second marriages to same-sex marriages. We’re still answering the questions you send in to Ask #staymarried, too! 

 

The #staymarried Book

#staymarried: A Couple's Devotional by Michelle PetersonThe #staymaried Book is a 52 Week Couples Devotional, each chapter exploring how our faith works together with our everyday lives and with relationship research to give a fuller picture of how we can create a marriage that doesn’t simply last, but fulfills our lives and helps us pursue our dreams. Find out more about the book here.

 

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Whether or not you have the time or energy to read, I hope you will join me in looking for ways to tend to your most important relationship. Do you have any favorite resources that I didn’t metion? We’d love for you to share them in the comments below. In marriage, we’re either moving closer together or drifting further apart. There is no standing still. Take advantage of these resources, move a little closer to your love, and #staymarried.

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The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedIf you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

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