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Hug it Out – 7 New Ways to Appreciate Physical Affection

Hug It Out - 7 New Ways to Appreciate Physical Affection - #staymarried

I noticed something recently. Tony is a hugger. I’m sure he would NEVER classify himself as a hugger, toucher, or affectionate type of person. But, he definitely IS a hugger… at least he is with me. It stands out recently, I think, because I haven’t been so affectionate. I’ve had a lot on my mind,…


Ask #staymarried: I cheated. Now what?

Ask #staymarried - advice on marriage, love, and relationships

Hi Tony and Michelle, First I will say my story. I have been with my husband for seven years total (married for three years). We have two living kids, my oldest being three, almost four, and my youngest being seven weeks. My second child passed away to SIDS at six months old. Many times I…


Top Five Reasons to Join (or Start!) a #staymarried Group

Top 5 Reasons to Join a #staymarried Group

It’s been just over two years since we launched the #staymarried blog. Before that Tony was (and still is) a graphic designer and I was busying myself mod-podging book pages on everything. Before that Tony and I were church planters, and before that we worked in cubicles, and before that he was in a band…


Don’t You Trust Me? – The 5 Characteristics of Trust

The 5 Characteristics of Trust - #staymarried, photo copyright Jake Gravbrot

We have seen a lot of comments and emails from you all lately, and I keep coming back to the same theme over and over again. It’s a word, really, but such a loaded word that I can’t escape it. The word is trust. “Don’t you trust me?” “How can I trust him?” “I can’t get…


Ask #staymarried: My future mother-in-law hates me. What should I do?

Ask #staymarried - advice on marriage, love, and relationships

Hello Tony and Michelle, I hope you are both well. In November 2013, my fiancee’s mother began a one woman campaign against me. She sent a nasty email and made phone calls trying to get my partner to leave me. For the last year, we have argued non-stop. When his mother made those calls, he…



3 Questions to Set Up Your Marriage for a Great New Year

3 Questions to Set Up Your Marriage for a Great New Year - #staymarried, photo copyright Jake Gravbrot

The turning of the clock, the arrival of a new calendar year, always brings with it a little bit more perspective, doesn’t it? We may ask ourselves… Did we make the most of last year? Was it a hard year or a good year? Maybe both? Is there anything we can do to make this…


8 {Theoretically} Simple Strategies to Survive the Holidays

8 Theoretically Simple Strategies to Survive the Holidays - #staymarried

  Not to brag, but I do have the smartest and most amazing friends. My friend Karri, for instance, is the founder of the Racine Coalition Against Human Trafficking and works to educate people on how to prevent, identify, and assist victims of human trafficking. When she’s not out saving the world and causing me to…


Kindness Elves – Something New for Christmas

Kindness Elves on #staymarried

As I explained, I decided to put my Advent tradition away this year. The original idea for it was to give us a way to focus on making this season meaningful and not so centered on buying more stuff. It didn’t work. I’m letting it go… darn you, Frozen, for getting that song stuck in…


Opting Out of the Rat Race of Christmas

Opting Out of the Rat Race of Christmas

It’s an interesting time of year, isn’t it? Christmastime, I mean. I know the politically correct term is “Holiday Season,” but if we’re truthful about the season itself here in America, it is really the “redecorate your home, bribe your children for the perfect family photo, attend themed parties, hurry up and don’t miss out…



51 Little Ways to Build Your Marriage

51 Little Ways to Build Your Marriage

Sometimes being the #staymarried lady is rough. I get heartbreaking emails and read devastating stories, and I feel sick and broken every time. My heart is tender toward marriage. I long to see people thrive in their relationships. It’s irrational, but I take it a little personally when any marriage fails. But, sometimes being the…


The Best Apology – How to Say Sorry Like You Mean It

The Best Apology - #staymarried

Forgiveness is an essential part of a growing relationship. Without a consistent practice of forgiveness, relationships are repressed. Forgiveness is not something that comes naturally to most of us, certainly not to me, but it can be learned. Forgiveness doesn’t always involve reconciliation. The sad reality is that sometimes forgiveness may need to happen for…



The One Thing You Shouldn’t Do if You Want to Stay Married

The One Thing You Shouldn't Do if You Want to Stay Married - #staymarried

  Though it was dark and the scenery was without landmarks, I remember it all clearly. Tony and I were on a road trip, moving from our home in Washington to start a new adventure in Wisconsin. It was late at night and we were somewhere in the middle of Wyoming listening to an audio…


Gratitude is the Antidote

GratitudeIs The Antidote - #staymarried

I’m working on making the most of my time. I’m working on saying no to good things so I can say yes to great things. I’m working on keeping my eyes open to commercialism and the comparison trap so that I can see clearly and help make better decisions for our family. I’m working on…


Walking Side-by-Side – How to Keep Perfect Pace with Your Partner

Walking Side-by-Side, How to Keep Perfect Pace with Your Partner - #staymarried

“Experience shows us that Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction.” –Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand, and Stars When you first get married, the amount of marital advice you receive can be quite daunting. From your mom to your friends to the person issuing your…


Yours, Mine, and Ours – Money and Your Marriage

Yours, Mine, and Ours - Money and Your Marriage - #staymarried

Disagreements over money is one of the top predictors that lead a couple to divorce. If we want couples to stick together through thick and thin, why haven’t we talked about it on #staymarried? Well, I’ll tell you… It’s because I don’t love talking about money. But, after this weekend, I really don’t think I…


What your husband wishes you knew… about the way you look.

What Your Husband Wishes You Knew... #staymarried

Do you ever wish you could get inside your husband’s head? However open and honest we might want to be in our marriages, there are still some things we wish our spouses knew without us having to tell them. For this reason, I’ve decided that every now and then we’ll address some of these tricky…


What I Wish Everyone At 20 (& 30…) Understood About Marriage

What I Wish Everyone at 20 (& 30...) Understood About Marriage - Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on #staymarried

I knew of Dr. Sellers long before I met her. Last year at about this time, I hosted a #staymarried Group with my dear friend Meagan, who told me all about Dr. Sellers’ work on a project called Thank God for Sex. I’ve been following along as they tear back the curtain of shame built…