Blog


What Would Happen if We Did Not Argue?

If a couple really loves each other, they won’t argue. Arguing is not the right way to handle problems. Anger and arguing are sinful behaviors. These are not statements we make on #staymarried. But, I realized recently that they are statements many of you have heard and believed. What We Learned From Our Parents You…


The Love Crumb

The Love Crumb - Bids for Affection and Missed Connections - #staymarried

I have a desk job. I am a UX Designer at Microsoft, which stands for User Experience Designer, which is the current fad-name for a web designer. I sit in a chair, at a desk, staring at a couple of monitors, from 8:30am to about 5pm Monday through Friday in Redmond, Washington. Sometimes I have…


Two Steps to a Better Fight

Two Steps to a Better Fight - 70 percent of marital conflicts are not resolvable - #staymarried

Rinse and Repeat Sometimes I feel like we are having the same arguments over and over again. I hate asking for help, but if I don’t ask, he doesn’t automatically know what I need. I grumble, he starts to try to figure out what the problem is, he gets frustrated that I don’t come right…




Our Faces Are In a MAGAZINE!

Glamour UK July 2014 - Tony and Michelle Peterson Interview #staymarried

Did you see my husband and I in the July issue of Glamour UK Magazine? Yeah… that’s a question I never ever thought I would ask someone in real life. As unbelievable as it is, Tony and I were, in fact, interviewed and featured in an article in Glamour UK on the topic of long…


Your Marriage Needs a Vacation

4 Reasons Your Marriage Needs A Vacation - a #staymarried blog

We are not very good at vacations. I must have known we wouldn’t be very good at them before we got married. While Tony was open to starting a family right away, I was the one who put the brakes on the baby-making. I did want to have a family with him, but I also…


How Being Defensive is Hurting Your Marriage

How Being Defensive is Hurting Your Marriage - #staymarried

“It’s so hard to be around them sometimes. They get so defensive if I say anything at all.” I was complaining to Tony, my new boyfriend at the time, about a couple of people I was working with. “Yeah,” he said innocently, “You can be pretty defensive, too.” Cue internal outrage… What!?!? Did he just…


‘Till Death Do Us Part – In Loving Memory of Walt

In Loving Memory of Walter E. Marth - a #staymarried blog about a love that lasts a lifetime

It was the text I dreaded: “We are moving him to hospice today.” Our dear friend Walt had been battling lung cancer for a long time. His health was compromised so that any infection that might ordinarily be handled with antibiotics, any blood clot that would otherwise be cleared with simple blood thinners, could be…


Our Picnic Dinner

Our Picnic Dinner - a #staymarried blog

You know, I was thinking I would take a week off. I love this blog and this #staymarried mission, but sometimes – even though I only post once a week – it feels overwhelming. I figured it would be ok to take a week off from researching the best relationship topics, learning about the most…


Zero to Five – We are in a book and we’re giving it away!

Zero to Five Giveaway on #staymarried

We don’t write about parenting. Once in a while we will get requests to cover certain topics on #staymarried. I love it when that happens. It usually jogs my mind and gives me something new to research and think about. However, now and again we will get requests to write about parenting in the midst…


What Every Newlywed Needs to #staymarried

Wedding season is officially upon us! Lovebirds everywhere will be tying the knot this summer. I love seeing all of the wedding photos… it’s a super exciting time in a couple’s life. Many couples are also celebrating anniversaries this time of year. Tony and I will be celebrating our 7th year of marriage in just a few…


Do You Want a Marriage Like Theirs?

Do You Want A Marriage Like Theirs - a #staymarried blog about being selective with the advice you listen to for your marriage

Like most of you, I get my news from Facebook and Twitter. I’m kind of tired of being lured in by the headlines that say, “This lady with only one arm had a dog with no legs… you’re not going to believe what happened next!” so I don’t click on those anymore… as much… ok,…


Are We Better Together? … an Interview with Davina Fear

Better Together - An Interview with Davina Fear on #staymarried

Davina Fear and I “met” just a few months ago when she reached out to Tony and I for a fun collaborative project called How Do I Love You that she put together in February. We were immediately delighted by her warm and fun personality, as well as her generosity… there are at least two FREE ebooks…


QUICK! Clean Up Like the House Cleaners are Coming!

QUICK! Clean Up Like the House Cleaners are Coming! - #staymarried

Can we just talk for a second? Seriously, right this moment, I am sitting on the floor of my living room writing as FIVE WOMEN rush around cleaning every inch of my house. I do not know what I should be doing.  I can’t do the things I normally do at this time of the…


Joining My Husband In The Valley

Joining My Husband In The Valley - a #staymarried blog

Most of the time my marriage is the best thing about my life. Sometimes, however, it has been strained. Not because Tony and I are fighting, but because one of us is experiencing a dark time. Whether it’s been with our careers, outside friendships, or family issues, there have been times when one of us…


Three Marriage Monsters and the Secrets for Defeating Them

3 Marriage Monsters and the Secrets for Defeating Them - #staymarried

People, it’s back. That wretched insomnia that propelled me to start writing for #staymarried in the first place has crept back into my life. I cannot sleep! I lay awake thinking and remembering and imagining and planning and regretting and not sleeping. It’s pretty ridiculous. Don’t feel bad for me, though. I’ve found myself a…


Sometimes My Wife Complains…

Sometimes My Wife Complains - What's behind the complaint and what to do about it.

There we were, a night in with the family, and I thought it would be fun to play a board game. I convinced Michelle to put down the laundry she was folding and come and join us. It was great! We were all together in the living room, the girls were having a good time,…


What is a Love Map?

"It doesn't matter where you're going, it's who you have beside you." - #staymarried quote

In the first year Tony and I were married, I took a new job that changed my commute from 8 minutes on a few back streets to driving 20 minutes into Seattle and then invariably spending another 20 minutes hunting for a parking space. We have always loved living so close to the city, but…