S3 E23 | Marriage is Not a Product. It’s an Investment.

Marriage is an InvestmentWe live in a consumer culture, and it’s easy to fall into the mentality that your marriage is a product that either works for you or it fails you.

But, the truth is, marriage is not a prodcut. It’s an investment. It requires a little work all the time in order to thrive.

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, we address one listener’s email about how #staymarried has failed his marriage…

 

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E23: Marriage is Not a Product. It’s an Investment.” on Spreaker.

 

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E22 | How You Show Up Under Pressure Matters

staymarried_S3Ep22_RobM_Image1In this episode we talk with our good friend Dr. Rob McKenna and he shares with us his insights on whole leadership development. His studies of how we each show up under pressure can effect our professional lives as well as our relationships with each other.

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep22: How You Show Up Under Pressure Matters” on Spreaker.

We’re looking forward to Dr. McKenna’s upcoming book: Composed – The Heart and Science of Leading Under Pressure. You can find out more here.

Composed - The Heart and Science of Leading Under Pressure Dr. Rob McKenna

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E21 | A Peek Inside a Therapist’s Marriage with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle“People seldom improve when they have no other model but themselves to copy.”

That idea, attributed to Oliver Goldsmith, reminds me that having friends with healthy marriages is a great way to keep my own marriage strong and healthy.

That’s one of the reasons we interview couples like Zach and Rebecca Brittle. You may remember Zach Brittle from Season 2, Episode 4 when he shared his perspective as a Marriage and Family Therapist about how we can find romance in our everyday interactions with each other.

In Season 3, we’ve been more focused on sharing stories of real married couples and I really wanted to hear from his wife! Tony and I had spent some time with Zach and Rebecca a few months ago, and they were so full of hope and practicality, that we decided to invite them over again and this time we put microphones in front of their faces.
S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

Zach often jokes that he and Rebecca have been happily married for 19 out of 20 years. Well, in this interview, Tony didn’t let him get away with this joke. I’m so glad Tony asked some bold questions and so thankful that Zach and Rebecca were willing to share about the hardest seasons in their 20 year marriage along with some hope and insights for those of us who have yet to cross that incredible milestone.

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep21: A Peek Inside a Therapist’s Marriage with Zach and Rebecca Brittle” on Spreaker.

 

Not only is Zach Brittle a pro, he is also super generous.
Zach’s offering our #staymarried community this fantastic resource for FREE.
Click here to get 20 Questions for Deeper Connection.

Every person who downloads this free gift will also be entered to win lifetime access to Zach’s online marriage course: Marriage in Motion.
Normally this course costs at least $397, but one of you is getting access for FREE! Can you tell I’m a little excited for you?

20 Questions for Deeper Connection by Zach Brittle

Download 20 Questions

 

S3 Ep21 - Watching for Sparks, with Zach and Rebecca Brittle

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E20 | The Positive Perspective

A Positive Perspective Could Make All The Difference #staymarriedIt’s natural to feel the impact of negative interactions more intensely than the positive ones. But, if we want to enjoy our marriages for decades to come, we need to learn the practice and benefits of developing a positive perspective.

In this episode we break down what we’ve learned from Dr. John Gottman and others about this essential marriage ingredient.

 

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E20: The Positive Perspective” on Spreaker.

 

For more about the Positive Perspective, check out this article on The Gottman Blog by Zach Brittle:

The Positive Perspective

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E19 | Sex is Complicated

SexIsComplicated1She’s back! Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is back to answer some tough questions about sex and the way the conservative church has placed undue pressure on a confused generation.

In her new book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy, sex therapist and internationally recognized expert in religious sexual shame, Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD, gives us the tools and cultural competence to begin to find healing for the sexual shame holding us back from living fully into both our spiritual and sexual vitality.

We hope you enjoy this interview…

Listen to “S3 E19: Sex is Complicated” on Spreaker.

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

S3 E18 | Good Listeners Make Great Lovers

In this episode we tackle another Ask #staymarried question. Are you doomed if you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye… or doomed if your interests don’t align? This weeks question brings up the topic of misaligned interests.

If you’re ‘checking out’ when your partner tries to share their interest, you’re missing a huge opportunity to show love. So we’re talking about listening well, as well as provide a few easy tips on how to be a better and more loving listener.

Listen to “S3 E18: Good Listeners Make Great Lovers” on Spreaker.

 

The Characteristics of a Good Listener

A good listener is…
1. Patient
2. Reflective
3. Curious
4. Keeps the conversation about the other person
5. Not the devils advocate
6. Gives positive feedback

If after listening to today’s podcast you’d like to join Tony in his nerd-dom, The Adventure Zone podcast can be found here.

The Big Bang Theory also tackled this topic…

 The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.
Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E17 | The Problem with Your Soulmate

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarriedMany of us imagine that marriage should come naturally… if we’re with the right person. So, if it’s difficult, we figure it might be because we are with the wrong person. We see this theme a lot when we look through the questions you’ve submitted at Ask #staymarried.

Today we are reaching back to the archives from Season 2 of The #staymarried Podcast when Tony and I answered Nikki’s question, “How do I know if we’re meant to be together or if it’s for the best if we go our separate ways?”

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E17: The Problem with Your Soulmate” on Spreaker.

The problem with the soul mate mentality is that none of us really are the right person for anyone else. We each come into our marriages with our own set of weird habits, temper triggers, and childhood traumas. Even great marriages, where two people are as compatible as any two people ever could be, still require work. Marriage becomes a journey, not only to discover more about the person we’ve committed our lives to, but also to discover ourselves.The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

We would love to know what you think of soul mates! How do you approach this idea in your own marriage? Have you been in Nikky’s shoes, wondering whether or not you married the right one? Comment below and let us know if you have any insight or words of wisdom for us or for Nikky. One thing we know for sure is that we’re all just trying to figure this marriage thing out and find out if it’s possible to #staymarried.

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

Want to read more about this topic? Check these out…

Does Marriage Really Have to Be Hard Work?
♥ Six Conversations Every Couple Must Have

 The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.
Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E16 | The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarriedOnce upon a time I noticed that #staymarried had a growing Muslim audience. Knowing basically nothing about the Muslim faith or culture, and wanting not to squander an opportunity to learn to help more peole have happy and healthy marriages, I set out on a quest to learn.

That quest led me to today’s guest, Menahal Begawala. “Mena” is a Gottman Certified Therapist practicing in New York. She is also the co-athor of the Islamic Reference Guide for the Gottman Method.

We learned so much from her, not just about marriage withing the Muslim community, but about the basic tennents of what makes any marriage strong enough to go the distance.

Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 Ep16: The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage” on Spreaker.

 

You can find out more about Menahal and her counseling practice at menahal.com

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarried

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E15 | Estranged: Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members

Estranged - Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members #staymarriedFamily relationships can be complicated. In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we answer a question from Ask #staymarried:

“Hey there Tony and Michelle,
My name is Tony also and my wife and I have been married for 8 years. Our marriage is strong and I have to say that listening to your podcasts is refreshing because of your candor and transparency. Here’s something I haven’t heard you two talk about and was wondering if you would consider addressing… estranged relationships with your parents.

My wife’s family is far away and we don’t see them much, but my family is fairly close yet are not very involved in our lives. We have a little boy and an even littler girl, and I sometimes wonder if my parents even care. I think I’d like for our kids to have doting grandparents like our friends around us seem to have, but I’m not sure if this is realistic. Do you think this absence is going to hurt our family in the future? You guys seem happy… do you have grandparents you want to loan us?”

Mr. Tony, we wish we had grandparents to loan you. Instead, we’ll share how we navigate our own tough family members. We hope it helps…

Listen to “S3 Ep15: Estranged” on Spreaker.

Also, Tony asked me if there was a book I’ve read multiple times. I shared two, and he shared one of his own. Here are the links.

Michelle’s Rec’s

Them – by Joyce Carol Oates

Them - Joyce Carol Oates

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by Dr. John Gottman

 

Tony’s Rec

The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E14 | Modern Kinship with David & Constantino

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarriedIf you’ve been following along on this third season of The #staymarried Podcast, you know we have not only been sharing insights from relationship experts, but we have also sprinkled in stories of real married couples.

While there is much to learn from the research about what makes a marriage work, nothing truly takes the place of hearing from other couples as they navigate life and love on their own terms.

We are thrilled to share with you the love story and marriage insights from our friends David and Constantino Khalaf, a Gay Christian Couple living in Portland, Oregon. We hope you enjoy them as much as we have.

 

Listen to “S3 Ep14: Modern Kinship, Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple” on Spreaker.

 

Here’s the Lookout Tower – Off the Grid and Forty Feet Up! – from Airbnb where Constantino proposed to David.

Lookout Tower on AirBnb - Modern Kinship on #staymarried

One of my favorite parts of this conversation happened at the end, when David shared that learning to love Constantino in the way he best received love, not necessarily the way that comes most naturally to David, was the real work of love. They may be newlyweds, but they’ve certainly figured out a few things.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

As we mentioned in the show, Constantino is the Director of Operations at the Gay Christian Network, an organization that works to build bridges between the LGBTQ Community and the church. You can find out more about this organization and ways you can get involved here.

You can find out more about David and Constantino’s life and love at their blog Modern Kinship and follow them on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Feel free to leave a comment for them, or for us, below.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple with David and Constantino Khalaf - #staymarried

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

Wedding Photos by Lehua Noelle

Dave and Tino also had some kind things to say about The #staymarried Book.

Modern Kinship - Figuring out Marriage as a Gay Christian Couple - #staymarried

Buy the book

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E13 | What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer

What does your Relationship Reveal? - with Sandra Fischer on The #staymarried PodcastBeing a writer and podcaster that focuses on marriage has a TON of perks! For instance, when people think their relationship resources might benefit our #staymarried community, guess who they reach out to give it a whirl? ME! That’s who! And then, when it’s a good one, not only does my marriage benefit, but you know I’m going to share those resources with you!

Sandra Fischer, creator of the new card game Relationship Reveal, is a professional writer and consultant with a diverse background specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness. With 25 years working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been unique and broad and she’s poured every bit of that into this fantastic resource.

Listen as we chat with Sandra about this unique game, and then hear from our friends Josh & Katy of Episode 12 fame as they share their experience with it, too.

Listen to “S3 Ep13: What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer” on Spreaker.

Did you listen? Don’t you want to try Relationship Reveal yourself? You can find out more about it and order your box here: Relationship Reveal.

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 Ep12 | Sportscenter and Back Rubs: A Modern Love Story

Sportscenter and Back Rubs - a Modern Love Story #staymarriedOur friends Josh & Katy join us for some shenanigans and storytelling. There is a lot that goes into marriage and even more that we can pull out of it, but Josh & Katy show us how it’s more often than not, the little things that keep us connected and invested in our relationship. They are the exhausted parents of 3 little boys and live in Kirkland, Washington.

Listen to “S3 Ep12: Sports Center and Back Rubs – A Modern Love Story” on Spreaker.

Also, The #staymarried Book is now available everywhere!

#staymarried: A Couple's Devotional by Michelle Peterson

Buy the book

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E11 | Unfaithful: The Little Things that Lead to Big Betrayal

Unfaithful - The Little Things That Lead To Big Betrayal - #staymarriedWhen people talk about unfaithfulness, they aren’t typically talking about the lack of small acts of faithfulness that make up a life together. They mean – and will interchangeably use the word – infidelity.

Nothing rocks a marriage like infidelity. But, infidelity is not typically where the problems start. Instead, it’s often the culmination of little betrayals over time.

In this episode we discuss the interplay between faithfulness, trustworthiness, and simple habits. It really is the little things that make such a big difference in a marriage. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep11: Unfaithful – The Little Things that Lead to Big Betrayal” on Spreaker.

We discussed an article on the science of habits. You can read more on that here.

Also, The #staymarried Book is now available everywhere!

#staymarried: A Couple's Devotional by Michelle Peterson

Buy the book

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E10 | Couple Checkup: Knowing Your Relationship Strengths

Couple Checkup - Knowing Your Relationship Strengths #staymarried

If the name “PREPARE/ENRICH” sounds familiar, it may be because it was recommended to you as a part of pre-marital counseling at some point.

PREPARE/ENRICH has a long history of supporting couples. It was founded in 1980 after years of research by Family Science pioneer Dr. David Olson. The Prepare/Enrich program was developed out of research done by Dr. Olson at the University of Minnesota. They are rooted and founded on research and highly value their scientifically valid assessment.

This is why we are so excited that they’ve decided to partner with us for the launch of The #staymarried Book. Tony and I took the assessment ourselves and learned so much and really believe Couple Checkup is a perfect partner to our Couple’s Devotional.

In this episode we share what we learned about our own relationship after taking the assessment. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep10: Couple Checkup – Knowing Your Relationship Strengths” on Spreaker.

We also talked about all of the other Pre-order Gifts we’ve been working on. If you order #staymarried: A Couple’s Devotional before May 23rd, you’ll get…

1. #staymarried Toolkit
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
The 2 Step Method to Learn and Practice Empathy Immediately
10 Ways to Think Like a Team (instead of treating each other like opponents)

2. Couple Checkup by Prepare Enrich
Get access to this personalized online assessment powered by over three decades of research, regularly $35, for just $14.95 with our exclusive discount code!

3. Unbox Love Date Box
Every pre-order will receive an exclusive discount code for $10 off your first date in a box delivered to your door.
+ A GIVEAWAY! 10 pre-orders will be randomly selected to win a custom date box for FREE!

4. Building Trust, Unlocking Intimacy
Access to a private Facebook Group where you’ll get to participate in an exclusive 5 Week Facebook Live Course with Tony and Michelle Peterson.

 

Ready to get these awesome gifts? All you have to do is forward your pre-order receipt to the following email address and we’ll send you everything. Send your receipt before May 23rd to: staymarried book at gmail dot com

Buy the book

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E9 | An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Michelle and I usually interview our guests together, but for this episode, I put my wife on the hot seat!

I got to dig in with some questions about her new book like, “Why is it a devotional?” and a few other things that were on my mind.

I was also able to sneak in one of YOUR questions for her from Ask #staymarried, and in the end, I even got her to read a chapter from her book. I really think you’re going to like this interview with my wife the AUTHOR, Michelle Peterson. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E9: Inteview with Author Michelle Peterson” on Spreaker.

Michelle also talked about all of the Pre-order Gifts she’s been working on. If you order before May 23rd, you’ll get…

1. #staymarried Toolkit
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
The 2 Step Method to Learn and Practice Empathy Immediately
10 Ways to Think Like a Team (instead of treating each other like opponents)

2. Couple Checkup by Prepare Enrich
Get access to this personalized online assessment powered by over three decades of research, regularly $35, for just $14.95 with our exclusive discount code!

3. Unbox Love Date Box
Every pre-order will receive an exclusive discount code for $10 off your first date in a box delivered to your door.
+ A GIVEAWAY! 10 pre-orders will be randomly selected to win a custom date box for FREE!

4. Building Trust, Unlocking Intimacy
Access to a private Facebook Group where you’ll get to participate in an exclusive 5 Week Facebook Live Course with Tony and Michelle Peterson.

 

Ready to get these awesome gifts? All you have to do is forward your pre-order receipt to the following email address and we’ll send you everything. Send your receipt before May 23rd to: staymarried book at gmail dot com

Buy the book

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E8 | Fighting the Fray with John & Paige

Fighting the Fray with John & Paige on The #staymarried PodcastOver the years we have found so much value in simply listening to the stories of other married couples doing their best to make it work. John & Paige from Fighting the Fray lured un in with their relatable style and approachable ideas.

These two are the co creators of Fighting the Fray, a movement that exists to inspire greater acts of love in relationships, marriages, and homes. They are invested in showing that marriage is and can be awesome and that it is always worth fighting for. They are the proud parents of 2 children and live in Houston, Texas

Listen especially for their perspective on navigating a rocky start at a young age, the benefits of Marriage Mentors, and how they practically work as a team. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 E8: Fighting the Fray with John & Paige” on Spreaker.

You can find out more about Fighting The Fray by checking out their website www.fightingthefray.com, their Instagram page, or their youtube channel where they just released a new video entitled “8 things we’ve learned in 8 years of marriage.” You can contact with them by shooting them an email at hello@fightingthefray.com

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E7 | Teamwork: How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage

Teamwork - How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage on The #staymarried PodcastTeamwork.

We talk about teamwork and being on the same team all the time. But, in this episode, we answer a listener question about how we actually do it and why it works in our marriage. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 E7: Teamwork – How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage” on Spreaker.

I mention two main writerly resources in this episode.

Stephen King’s On Writing

Hope*Writers Online Community

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E6 | Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried PodcastIntimacy is a vital part of a healthy marriage. The biggest enemy of intimacy is shame, and sexual shame specifically has had a profoundly devastating effect on many of us.

In her new book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy, sex therapist and internationally recognized expert in religious sexual shame, Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD, gives us the tools and cultural competence to begin to find healing for the sexual shame holding us back from living fully into both our spiritual and sexual vitality.

We hope you enjoy this interview…

Listen to “S3 E6: Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers” on Spreaker.

 

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E5 | The Perils of our Late Night Fights

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast“Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

“Don’t go to bed angry.”

“Even if you’re mad, say I love you before you go to sleep.”

Haven’t we all heard some version of this marriage advice?

This Ask #staymarried qustion comes from Brooke. She says…

Hey Tony and Michelle, can you help me understand something?

My husband and I got into an argument the other night after the kids went to bed. I won’t even get into what it was about because it WAS SO DUMB. I was tired, I just wanted to go to bed, but we both kept saying awful things to each other. I finally told him I was done trying to figure it out, I needed to go to bed and sleep on it. But then he pulled out the big guns: he said what he always says in these situations…

“Nope. We are figuring this out. We can’t let the sun go down on our anger.”

So, then I felt guilty for wanting to go to sleep, but I also felt like everything I said didn’t make sense because I was so tired. Can you tell me why it’s so important to settle all your fights before you go to bed? I feel like I’m going crazy when things escalate so late at night and I just don’t get it.

Please help,
Brooke

 

Dearest Brooke,
Thanks for trusting us with this. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I did our best to bring some clarity to this age old advice. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E5: The Perils of Our Late Night Fights” on Spreaker.

My Darling, if you truly love me, please let me sleep. - The #staymarried Podcast

We love hearing from you! What sort of marriage advice have you tried to follow only to feel frustrated in the end?

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast

 

S3 E4 | The Newlywed Perspective with Nate and Angilyn Bagley

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried Podcast

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried PodcastI remember feeling like we were taking advantage of our marriage mentors when we first got married. We asked them to help us, but we didn’t pay them. We were taking up their time, and they were generously pouring into our lives. I apologized a lot back then. Until one day Barabara (the best marriage mentor ever) told me how she felt about our time together.

“There’s something invigorating, something so sweet really, about spending time with newlyweds. There’s this fresh sense of love that is refreshing for us. Don’t be sorry for taking up our time. This is great for our marriage, too.”

I never forgot that, and now, nearly ten years into our own marriage and beginning to spend more time with newlyweds, I thoroughly agree. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I had a chance to sit down with a couple just five months into their marriage. Nate and Angilyn Bagley were such a delight and had so many fresh insights, I really hope you enjoy them as much as we did.

Listen to “S3 E4: The Newlywed Perspective with Angilyn and Nate Bagley” on Spreaker.

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried Podcast

Check out Nate’s newest project First 7 Years. Did you know that 50% of divorces happen within the first seven years of marriage? As an avid student of long-lasting love, Nate is on a journey to make his first seven years the BEST seven years and I think he can help you make your first seven years of marriage fantastic, too!

First 7 Years - #staymarried

You can find out more about this project and how you can get his tips and tools for creating a solid foundation for your marriage at first7years.com.

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle