Ep. 8 of The #staymarried Podcast: Defensiveness Will Drive You Apart

The #staymarried PODCAST - a brand new series featuring The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John GottmanYou’re still listening? Our power has been out for over 24 hours here in the Seattle-ish area of Washington state. Since it’s on now, I’m going to try to get this to all of you who are enjoying electricity and internet connection. So, welcome to Episode 8 of The #staymarried Podcast! In this episode we are jumping back over to the Don’ts of The Seven Do’s and Four Don’ts for a Long and Happy Marriage.

If you’ve missed an episode, here’s what we’ve covered so far…

♥ Ep. 1 – Intro to The #staymarried Podcast and The Gottman Institute
♥ Ep. 2 – Do #1 – Exploring Love Maps
♥ Ep. 3 – Do #2 – Nurture Fondness and Admiration
♥ Ep. 4 – Don’t #1 – Criticism is a Relationship Killer
♥ Ep. 5 – Don’t #2 – Contempt is Sulfuric Acid for Love
♥ Ep. 6 – Do #3 – Finding Romance in the Little Things
♥ Ep. 7 – Do #4 – Accepting Each Other’s Influence

Today, in Episode 8, we are going over we’ve got another big relationship DON’T – Defensiveness. This is the third of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”, so it is definitely one to identify and work through. This episode will teach you both…

As always, this series is based on the New York Time’s Bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work because those researchers are smart and they know what they are talking about.
Ok, go ahead and have a listen…

The #staymarried PODCAST - a brand new series featuring The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

 

 The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

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~ Michelle

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7 responses

  • Kathy Schwartz on

    My husband and I are really loving your podcast!! We are spending another year separated due to military deployment, the first year being 5 years ago. Our marriage almost did not survive that first separation. We were 4 horsemen gone wild and had no idea!! Thanks to a great councilor, us knowing we love each other, and being very dedicated to doing a WHOLE LOT of work, I’m happy to say, we are stronger than ever 🙂 Your podcast is delivered in such a fun, quirky, delightful way; your message sinks right in. We are tuned in and it is greatly helping us stay turning toward each other and finding ways to connect from a half a world apart! Keep it up!!

    • Hey Kathy!
      It’s so great to hear from you! I’m delighted that you guys are listening together even being so far away! Thanks for taking the time to encourage us 🙂

      • Jeremy schwartz on

        greetings from the Middle East,

        I’m am Kathy’s other half. Like she said, after I came home last time we knew so little about the Gottman and the four horsemen, actually we knew nothing. after some serious work and learning we are I such a great place even though I’m 11 time zones away. Please keep up the awesome work helping couples! It is so important.

        Take care,
        Jeremy

    • Excellant podcast, have only rectnely started listening to it as I have been busy preparing for grade 5 , great humour, great ideas and always a joy to listen too.

  • Dear Tony & Michelle,

    Thanks very much for your passion about staying married, and doing this together. Wish I’d learned this stuff 40 years ago. Been married to my Michelle for 38 years. We’ve been reasonably happy in our marriage when we should have been superbly happy. Now we’ve been separated for 6 months, and I’m learning as much as possible. Sure hoping she’ll come back. We have 2 daughters, 6 sons & 13 grand children.

    I live in Barnesville, MN.

    Thank you again. Keep up the good work; you really sound superbly happy together.

    Doug

  • Hi! I have seen a few things on pinterest and have now subscribed to your blog and I am now listening to this podcast 🙂

    My husband and I have been married for 4 years (January 28th) and our daughter will be One this Wednesday! (Feb 10th). I am from Minnesota 🙂 can’t wait to listen to more podcasts!

    • Welcome, Nicole! Great to have you with us! Keep the feedback coming. We hope you enjoy the other episodes 🙂