Humble Words

Love makes requests, not demands. - #staymarried

From The Five Love Languages

Love makes requests, not demands. When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child. It is the parent who tells the three-year-old what he ought to do and, in fact, what he must do. That is necessary because the three-year-old does not yet know how to navigate in the treacherous waters of life. In marriage, however, we are equal, adult partners. If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other’s desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.

The way we express those desires, however, is all-important. If they come across as demands, we have erased the possibility of intimacy and will drive our spouse away. If, however we make known our needs and desires as requests, we are giving guidance, not ultimatums.


You are reading Day 26 in our 31 Days of Loving on Purpose series. Tony wrote about the first three Love Languages here and I followed up with the last two here, so check them out if you haven’t yet.

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Thanks for stopping by!
~ Michelle

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4 thoughts on “Humble Words

  1. Michelle! It was so great meeting you and Tony at Anna’s wedding. I’ve been loving your daily October musings 🙂
    Prayers and blessings!

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