Season 2 Ep. 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: How Your Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage

Season 2 Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: Why You Need a Tribe - How Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage

In the beginning, when you’re wrapped up together in your cocoon of twitterpation, swirling around with your eyes locked on each other, floating through the air on heart-shaped clouds, it’s easy to forget that anyone in the world exists outside of your most incredible and unique love for each other. Since we are also a big fan of your love for each other, we just want to remind you that before this big love happened, you had friends. Do not forget about these people! Marriages succeed in community and fail in isolation.

In today’s episode of The #staymarried Podcast Tony and I answer a question sent in by Jade to Ask #staymarried; “How do we make and keep friends once we get married and have kids? Author Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If that’s true, it’s time we make sure that we not only have people, but that we are surrounding ourselves with quality people. For a couple of introverts like us, this can be challenging, but it can be done.

No time to listen today? Scroll down for a few readable resources on the topic.

Here’s Season 2, Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast


Make every effort to spend time with your friends with or without your partner.  Making sure you’ve built and kept a close community of people is one of the best things you can do to ensure your marriage lasts beyond the honeymoon phase when you might just fall down a bit from those heart-shaped clouds.

Season 2 Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: Why You Need a Tribe - How Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage


In this episode, I reference a study out of UCLA on women and friendships. You can find more about that and additional sources here:
UCLA Study On Friendship Among Women – An alternative to fight or flight

Season 2 Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: Why You Need a Tribe - How Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage

Want to read more about this topic? Check these out…

My Husband is Not Enough – The Five Key Friends We Need to #staymarried
How to Share Your Spouse and #staymarried
Resources for Starting Your Own #staymarried Group
15 Characteristics of a #staymarried Friend

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~ Michelle

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2 responses

  • I loved this episode of the podcast! I really think you hit on some key issues for marriages. I believe, and wrote a blog post, about the idea that community is one of the biggest reasons why my husband & I are still married (!

    And I also think it’s key, like you said, for each of us to have friends other than our spouse. Such good content – I will be sharing for sure!

  • That’s such an interesting finding from the UCLA study that discovered women handle stress differently than men. Goes to show that living in community is vital to a balanced, healthy life—especially for women! Thanks for the great content on relationships, keep up the great content.