S3 E20 | The Positive Perspective

A Positive Perspective Could Make All The Difference #staymarriedIt’s natural to feel the impact of negative interactions more intensely than the positive ones. But, if we want to enjoy our marriages for decades to come, we need to learn the practice and benefits of developing a positive perspective.

In this episode we break down what we’ve learned from Dr. John Gottman and others about this essential marriage ingredient.

 

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E20: The Positive Perspective” on Spreaker.

 

For more about the Positive Perspective, check out this article on The Gottman Blog by Zach Brittle:

The Positive Perspective

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E17 | The Problem with Your Soulmate

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarriedMany of us imagine that marriage should come naturally… if we’re with the right person. So, if it’s difficult, we figure it might be because we are with the wrong person. We see this theme a lot when we look through the questions you’ve submitted at Ask #staymarried.

Today we are reaching back to the archives from Season 2 of The #staymarried Podcast when Tony and I answered Nikki’s question, “How do I know if we’re meant to be together or if it’s for the best if we go our separate ways?”

Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E17: The Problem with Your Soulmate” on Spreaker.

The problem with the soul mate mentality is that none of us really are the right person for anyone else. We each come into our marriages with our own set of weird habits, temper triggers, and childhood traumas. Even great marriages, where two people are as compatible as any two people ever could be, still require work. Marriage becomes a journey, not only to discover more about the person we’ve committed our lives to, but also to discover ourselves.The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

We would love to know what you think of soul mates! How do you approach this idea in your own marriage? Have you been in Nikky’s shoes, wondering whether or not you married the right one? Comment below and let us know if you have any insight or words of wisdom for us or for Nikky. One thing we know for sure is that we’re all just trying to figure this marriage thing out and find out if it’s possible to #staymarried.

The Problem with Your Soulmate - #staymarried

Want to read more about this topic? Check these out…

Does Marriage Really Have to Be Hard Work?
♥ Six Conversations Every Couple Must Have

 The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.
Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E16 | The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarriedOnce upon a time I noticed that #staymarried had a growing Muslim audience. Knowing basically nothing about the Muslim faith or culture, and wanting not to squander an opportunity to learn to help more peole have happy and healthy marriages, I set out on a quest to learn.

That quest led me to today’s guest, Menahal Begawala. “Mena” is a Gottman Certified Therapist practicing in New York. She is also the co-athor of the Islamic Reference Guide for the Gottman Method.

We learned so much from her, not just about marriage withing the Muslim community, but about the basic tennents of what makes any marriage strong enough to go the distance.

Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 Ep16: The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage” on Spreaker.

 

You can find out more about Menahal and her counseling practice at menahal.com

The Joys and Challenges in a Muslim Marriage - #staymarried

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E13 | What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer

What does your Relationship Reveal? - with Sandra Fischer on The #staymarried PodcastBeing a writer and podcaster that focuses on marriage has a TON of perks! For instance, when people think their relationship resources might benefit our #staymarried community, guess who they reach out to give it a whirl? ME! That’s who! And then, when it’s a good one, not only does my marriage benefit, but you know I’m going to share those resources with you!

Sandra Fischer, creator of the new card game Relationship Reveal, is a professional writer and consultant with a diverse background specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness. With 25 years working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been unique and broad and she’s poured every bit of that into this fantastic resource.

Listen as we chat with Sandra about this unique game, and then hear from our friends Josh & Katy of Episode 12 fame as they share their experience with it, too.

Listen to “S3 Ep13: What does your Relationship Reveal? with Sandra Fischer” on Spreaker.

Did you listen? Don’t you want to try Relationship Reveal yourself? You can find out more about it and order your box here: Relationship Reveal.

 

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E10 | Couple Checkup: Knowing Your Relationship Strengths

Couple Checkup - Knowing Your Relationship Strengths #staymarried

If the name “PREPARE/ENRICH” sounds familiar, it may be because it was recommended to you as a part of pre-marital counseling at some point.

PREPARE/ENRICH has a long history of supporting couples. It was founded in 1980 after years of research by Family Science pioneer Dr. David Olson. The Prepare/Enrich program was developed out of research done by Dr. Olson at the University of Minnesota. They are rooted and founded on research and highly value their scientifically valid assessment.

This is why we are so excited that they’ve decided to partner with us for the launch of The #staymarried Book. Tony and I took the assessment ourselves and learned so much and really believe Couple Checkup is a perfect partner to our Couple’s Devotional.

In this episode we share what we learned about our own relationship after taking the assessment. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 Ep10: Couple Checkup – Knowing Your Relationship Strengths” on Spreaker.

We also talked about all of the other Pre-order Gifts we’ve been working on. If you order #staymarried: A Couple’s Devotional before May 23rd, you’ll get…

1. #staymarried Toolkit
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
The 2 Step Method to Learn and Practice Empathy Immediately
10 Ways to Think Like a Team (instead of treating each other like opponents)

2. Couple Checkup by Prepare Enrich
Get access to this personalized online assessment powered by over three decades of research, regularly $35, for just $14.95 with our exclusive discount code!

3. Unbox Love Date Box
Every pre-order will receive an exclusive discount code for $10 off your first date in a box delivered to your door.
+ A GIVEAWAY! 10 pre-orders will be randomly selected to win a custom date box for FREE!

4. Building Trust, Unlocking Intimacy
Access to a private Facebook Group where you’ll get to participate in an exclusive 5 Week Facebook Live Course with Tony and Michelle Peterson.

 

Ready to get these awesome gifts? All you have to do is forward your pre-order receipt to the following email address and we’ll send you everything. Send your receipt before May 23rd to: staymarried book at gmail dot com

Buy the book

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!


Tony and Michelle Peterson 2017The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E9 | An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Michelle and I usually interview our guests together, but for this episode, I put my wife on the hot seat!

I got to dig in with some questions about her new book like, “Why is it a devotional?” and a few other things that were on my mind.

I was also able to sneak in one of YOUR questions for her from Ask #staymarried, and in the end, I even got her to read a chapter from her book. I really think you’re going to like this interview with my wife the AUTHOR, Michelle Peterson. Enjoy!

 

Listen to “S3 E9: Inteview with Author Michelle Peterson” on Spreaker.

Michelle also talked about all of the Pre-order Gifts she’s been working on. If you order before May 23rd, you’ll get…

1. #staymarried Toolkit
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
The 2 Step Method to Learn and Practice Empathy Immediately
10 Ways to Think Like a Team (instead of treating each other like opponents)

2. Couple Checkup by Prepare Enrich
Get access to this personalized online assessment powered by over three decades of research, regularly $35, for just $14.95 with our exclusive discount code!

3. Unbox Love Date Box
Every pre-order will receive an exclusive discount code for $10 off your first date in a box delivered to your door.
+ A GIVEAWAY! 10 pre-orders will be randomly selected to win a custom date box for FREE!

4. Building Trust, Unlocking Intimacy
Access to a private Facebook Group where you’ll get to participate in an exclusive 5 Week Facebook Live Course with Tony and Michelle Peterson.

 

Ready to get these awesome gifts? All you have to do is forward your pre-order receipt to the following email address and we’ll send you everything. Send your receipt before May 23rd to: staymarried book at gmail dot com

Buy the book

An Interview with Author Michelle Peterson on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E7 | Teamwork: How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage

Teamwork - How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage on The #staymarried PodcastTeamwork.

We talk about teamwork and being on the same team all the time. But, in this episode, we answer a listener question about how we actually do it and why it works in our marriage. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 E7: Teamwork – How Flexibility Benefits Your Marriage” on Spreaker.

I mention two main writerly resources in this episode.

Stephen King’s On Writing

Hope*Writers Online Community

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E6 | Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried PodcastIntimacy is a vital part of a healthy marriage. The biggest enemy of intimacy is shame, and sexual shame specifically has had a profoundly devastating effect on many of us.

In her new book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy, sex therapist and internationally recognized expert in religious sexual shame, Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD, gives us the tools and cultural competence to begin to find healing for the sexual shame holding us back from living fully into both our spiritual and sexual vitality.

We hope you enjoy this interview…

Listen to “S3 E6: Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers” on Spreaker.

 

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

 

Sex, God, and The Conservative Church with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers on The #staymarried Podcast

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

S3 E5 | The Perils of our Late Night Fights

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast“Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

“Don’t go to bed angry.”

“Even if you’re mad, say I love you before you go to sleep.”

Haven’t we all heard some version of this marriage advice?

This Ask #staymarried qustion comes from Brooke. She says…

Hey Tony and Michelle, can you help me understand something?

My husband and I got into an argument the other night after the kids went to bed. I won’t even get into what it was about because it WAS SO DUMB. I was tired, I just wanted to go to bed, but we both kept saying awful things to each other. I finally told him I was done trying to figure it out, I needed to go to bed and sleep on it. But then he pulled out the big guns: he said what he always says in these situations…

“Nope. We are figuring this out. We can’t let the sun go down on our anger.”

So, then I felt guilty for wanting to go to sleep, but I also felt like everything I said didn’t make sense because I was so tired. Can you tell me why it’s so important to settle all your fights before you go to bed? I feel like I’m going crazy when things escalate so late at night and I just don’t get it.

Please help,
Brooke

 

Dearest Brooke,
Thanks for trusting us with this. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I did our best to bring some clarity to this age old advice. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E5: The Perils of Our Late Night Fights” on Spreaker.

My Darling, if you truly love me, please let me sleep. - The #staymarried Podcast

We love hearing from you! What sort of marriage advice have you tried to follow only to feel frustrated in the end?

Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast

 

S3 E4 | The Newlywed Perspective with Nate and Angilyn Bagley

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried Podcast

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried PodcastI remember feeling like we were taking advantage of our marriage mentors when we first got married. We asked them to help us, but we didn’t pay them. We were taking up their time, and they were generously pouring into our lives. I apologized a lot back then. Until one day Barabara (the best marriage mentor ever) told me how she felt about our time together.

“There’s something invigorating, something so sweet really, about spending time with newlyweds. There’s this fresh sense of love that is refreshing for us. Don’t be sorry for taking up our time. This is great for our marriage, too.”

I never forgot that, and now, nearly ten years into our own marriage and beginning to spend more time with newlyweds, I thoroughly agree. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I had a chance to sit down with a couple just five months into their marriage. Nate and Angilyn Bagley were such a delight and had so many fresh insights, I really hope you enjoy them as much as we did.

Listen to “S3 E4: The Newlywed Perspective with Angilyn and Nate Bagley” on Spreaker.

The Newlywed Perspective - The #staymaried Podcast

Check out Nate’s newest project First 7 Years. Did you know that 50% of divorces happen within the first seven years of marriage? As an avid student of long-lasting love, Nate is on a journey to make his first seven years the BEST seven years and I think he can help you make your first seven years of marriage fantastic, too!

First 7 Years - #staymarried

You can find out more about this project and how you can get his tips and tools for creating a solid foundation for your marriage at first7years.com.

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

S3 E3 | Keeping the Promise – How Your Wedding Vows Impact Your Marriage

Love is keeping the promise anyway. How your wedding vows impact your marriage on The #staymarried Podcast

“Some people don’t understand the promises they’re making when they make them,” I said.

“Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That’s what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.”
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

I find it fascinating that at the beginning of this long journey of marriage, at the ceremony that transforms two lives into one, we exchange promises. We call them vows, and then we work for the rest of our lives trying to fulfill the promises we made.

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we talk about the significance of wedding vows, how they impact our marriages, and look through how different cultures view promises and ceremony. Tony also surprised me by asking if we could renew our own vows with all of you listening. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E3: Keeping the Promise – How Your Wedding Vows Impact Your Marriage” on Spreaker.

Love is keeping the promise anyway. How your wedding vows impact your marriage on The #staymarried Podcast

 

Love is keeping the promise anyway. How your wedding vows impact your marriage on The #staymarried Podcast

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

Love is keeping the promise anyway. How your wedding vows impact your marriage on The #staymarried Podcast

S3 E2 | Relationship Goals: How Millennial Couples Are Making It Last

Relationship Goals - How Millennial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried PodcastRelationship Goals - How Millennial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried Podcast
Millennial Couples are setting the bar higher than ever when it comes to what they expect in their relationships, and why shouldn’t they?

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we talk with Jay Cadet, a Relationship Coach who specializes in working with unmarried millennial couples. He shares his insights on how our media consumption influences our behavior in relationships as well as how couples can recover and thrive after something as devastating as infidelity.

Listen to “S3 E2: Relationship Goals – How Millenial Couples Are Making It Work with Jay Cadet” on Spreaker.

Jay Cadet is a Relationship Coach who helps unmarried, millennial couples build strong relationships they can feel confident committing to for the long haul. He lives in Harlem, NYC with his wife and son and typically can be found roaming around exploring the city, hanging out at museums, or hunting down the next burger joint to try out. He’s @JayCadet on Instagram and Twitter, and you can also come find him on Facebook.

Don’t forget to check out his incredible web course, A New Approach To Us where he has offered #staymarried listeners a 10% discount on the whole course by using the code: staymarried

A New Approach To Us Jay Cadet #staymarried

 

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below for us or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

 

Relationship Goals - How Millenial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried Podcast

 

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedThe #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship Goals - How Millennial Couples Are Making It Work, Jay Cadet on The #staymarried Podcast

Welcome Back! Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast

Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast: Welcome Back!We left you all at the end of Season 2 of The #staymarried Podcast with the reminder that, sometimes we have to say NO to good things so that we can say YES to great things.

Well, we said YES to many great things over the break and now we’re back to tell you all about it.

In this episode, we share the latest about The #staymarried Book, where we are moving to and why, and what you can expect from Season 3. Enjoy!

Listen to “S3 Ep1: Welcome Back!” on Spreaker.

We love hearing from you! Feel free to leave a comment or question below or you can submit a question privately here: Ask #staymarried. We may even answer your question in an upcoming episode.

Season 3 Episode 1 of The #staymarried Podcast: Welcome Back!

And, of course, keep in touch with us on the socials: TwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms. We can’t wait to hear from you!

The #staymarried blog was created to offer hope, stories, and resources for couples who want to stay married.

If you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and being a part of this #staymarried community!

~ Michelle

 

 

 

Season 2 Ep. 13 of The #staymarried Podcast: Balancing Work, Life, and Marriage – with guests Jessie & Gerard

Season 2 Episode 13 of The #staymarried Podcast: Balancing Work, Life, & Marriage with guests Jessie & Gerard from the Marriage Is Funny PodcastIs having a balance between work and life an achievable feat?

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we answer one listener’s question about the problem busyness has created in her marriage. We also chat with Jessie and Gerard from the Marriage Is Funny Podcast and even share a bit about the upcoming #staymarried book!

Scroll down for links to the books we mention and to find out more.

Here’s the FINALE of Season 2, Episode 13 of The #staymarried Podcast… Continue reading “Season 2 Ep. 13 of The #staymarried Podcast: Balancing Work, Life, and Marriage – with guests Jessie & Gerard”

Season 2 Ep. 12 of The #staymarried Podcast: Finding Your Blended Family Bliss – with guest Beth Wylie

Season 2 Episode 12 of The #staymarried Podcast: Finding Your Blended Family Bliss with Beth WylieEven in the best case scenario, marriage is not an easy road to travel. When we factor in previous marriages, divorces, and children, that road becomes cliff-side winding around a steep mountain complete with boulders falling over unexpected turns. Tricky is an understatement. But, can a blended family find their own bliss? We believe they can.

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we chat with Beth Wylie, LMFT – a blended family expert! Not only does she specialize in working with blended families in her practice, she herself is a step-mom and grew up as the product of divorce and remarriage. As she puts it, “I’ve been a step-everything.” Along the way, she’s learned some key truths and tools that she generously shares with us.

Here’s Season 2, Episode 12 of The #staymarried Podcast… Continue reading “Season 2 Ep. 12 of The #staymarried Podcast: Finding Your Blended Family Bliss – with guest Beth Wylie”

Season 2 Ep. 11 of The #staymarried Podcast: How To Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut

Season 2 Episode 11 of The #staymarried Podcast: How To Get Your Marriage Out of a RutThe monotony of the day-to-day can leave us feeling like, is this all there is? 

In today’s episode of The #staymarried Podcast Tony and I answer a question sent in by Tyler to Ask #staymarried; “Have you ever felt like you were in a rut in your marriage? How do you get out of it?”

No time to listen today? Scroll down for a few readable resources on the topic.

Here’s Season 2, Episode 11 of The #staymarried Podcast

 

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Season 2 Ep. 10 of The #staymarried Podcast: Supporting Your Partner’s Passions and Winning at Marriage as a Team – with guests Craig & Rachel Terrill

Season 2 Episode 10 of The #staymarried Podcast: Supporting Your Partner's Passions with Craig and Rachel TerrillIs it possible to pursue two life-long dreams in one marriage?

In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we sit down with Craig Terrill, former defensive lineman for the Seattle Seahawks (2004 – 2011) and his wife Dr. Rachel Binns-Terrill, speaker, professor, and author. We get to hear their lessons on love and marriage inside the NFL and how the two of them work together to pursue both of their dreams and passions.

Scroll down for info and links to all of the many resources we mentioned in this episode.

Here’s Season 2, Episode 10 of The #staymarried Podcast

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Season 2 Ep. 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: How Your Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage

Season 2 Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast: Why You Need a Tribe - How Friendships Can Make or Break Your Marriage

In the beginning, when you’re wrapped up together in your cocoon of twitterpation, swirling around with your eyes locked on each other, floating through the air on heart-shaped clouds, it’s easy to forget that anyone in the world exists outside of your most incredible and unique love for each other. Since we are also a big fan of your love for each other, we just want to remind you that before this big love happened, you had friends. Do not forget about these people! Marriages succeed in community and fail in isolation.

In today’s episode of The #staymarried Podcast Tony and I answer a question sent in by Jade to Ask #staymarried; “How do we make and keep friends once we get married and have kids? Author Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If that’s true, it’s time we make sure that we not only have people, but that we are surrounding ourselves with quality people. For a couple of introverts like us, this can be challenging, but it can be done.

No time to listen today? Scroll down for a few readable resources on the topic.

Here’s Season 2, Episode 9 of The #staymarried Podcast

 

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Season 2 Ep. 8 of The #staymarried Podcast: The Sexy Side of Marriage – with guest Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Season 2 Ep. 8 of The #staymarried Podcast: The Sexy Side of Marriage - with guest Dr. Tina Schermer SellersWe’ve gotta come clean. Tony and I have been holding on to something. Between Seasons 1 & 2, we recorded our first interview for The #staymarried Podcast. We were lucky to be able to sit down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, but the interview really blew us away. To be honest, we’re still processing a lot of what she said for ourselves. But, since this is the 8th episode of the season, we’ve decided… we think you’re ready for this.

Not only did we get to interview her, but we were able to ask her one of YOUR questions. Listen as Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers gives some insight into Jen’s dilemma of trust and jealousy in her marriage. Of course, keep your questions coming by clicking on Ask #staymarried.

Scroll down for info and links to all of the many resources we mentioned in this episode.

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Season 2 Ep. 7 of The #staymarried Podcast: Your Baggage Doesn’t Have to Wreck Your Marriage

Season 2 Episode 7 of The #staymarried Podcast: Your Baggage Doesn't Have to Wreck Your MarriageAt the age of eighteen I was diagnosed with Dysthymia. I can’t stand the labels of things, but I also value that they help make murky ideas a little bit more clear. Dysthymia is a mild form of depression, mostly manageable without medication. It is very real, but not necessarily incapacitating. The trouble with this kind of depression is that, because I am used to being just a little less joyful than the average person, a true season of deeper depression can sneak up on me pretty easily.

Dysthymia has also made me more susceptible to severe postpartum depression (PPD). I didn’t know that when we decided to start having kids, so rather than being snuck up on by a depressive season, I was tackled by a huge linebacker of darkness and self-loathing after the birth of my first daughter. I was deep under the weight of it and we really weren’t sure if I would make it out or if our marriage would still be intact if and when I did.

In today’s episode of The #staymarried Podcast Tony and I answer two questions back-to-back. Both are pretty heavy. One listener asked about navigating PPD, and another asked about coping with and helping their partner cope with past trauma and abuse. Because these issues have been intertwined in my life and then in our marriage, we’re talking about it all. Below I will also link to older posts where Tony and I have also written about some of these experiences, in case reading is more your thing or you’d just like more detail and resources after you listen.

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