Most of the time I want to use this blog as a place where we (you, the reader and I, the writer) can take responsibility for our marriages. We don’t blame, we own up. We decide together to set aside our preferences. We look for ways we can improve our marriages even if our spouse isn’t so energetic about it. Today is different.
Today, the only thing I want to own up to is that I know… I KNOW… I’m loved. You see, it’s easy for me to try my best to encourage you when I’m living with my own encourager. He makes our marriage easier on me every day, makes me feel secure, makes me feel appreciated. So, today, in honor of the one I crave and his birthday, I’ve decided to write a list. Not a grocery list or a “to do” list, but a list of little ways I know I am loved.
Here’s my list.
- That time we whispered to each other in the dark because we still wanted to talk but we were on vacation and sleeping in the same room as our girls.
- When he snuggled close to me on the couch, told me he loved me and was proud of me and that I had a “cool hair-cut.”
- He gets excited with me and helps me with things I’m excited for, even when I think they are silly. Like decorating for a party.
- He pulls me close to dance with me in the kitchen, in front of our girls, because my favorite Motown song is on.
- He looks at me with love whether I’m wearing pajamas or heels – or both at the same time.
Now, originally this little list was just a way for me to write down the lovey-dovey things that had been swirling around in my head as Tony’s birthday was approaching. But, according to this article from ThrivingFamily.com by experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, “Couples with lasting marriages described their spouse in glowing terms. Those who eventually divorced talked about their spouse with cynicism.” Yikes! Those are big claims. Are you thinking now about the way you talk about your spouse?
Think for a bit about the ways you know you are loved and the things you love about your spouse. Now, I charge you to write your own little list (and, if you want, share with us below) and #staymarried.
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