Ep. 4 of The #staymarried Podcast: Criticism is a Relationship Killer

The #staymarried PODCAST - a brand new series featuring The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John GottmanExcited to bring you Episode 4 of The #staymarried PODCAST!

Throughout this series we are talking about Seven Do’s and Four Don’ts for a Long and Happy Marriage. So far, we have shared with you two of the Do’s (Building Your Love Maps and Nurturing Fondness and Admiration) and today we are bringing you the first of the Don’s: Criticism. Again, because this is a series and each episode builds on the episode before, please go back and listen to them in order if you haven’t yet. All of this will make much more sense if you do.


Now that you’re all caught up, we are eager to dig into this relationship killer. Criticism is considered by Dr. John Gottman and his team as one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – a sure sign that your marriage is in trouble. All of these ideas can be found in the New York Time’s Bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. If you don’t already have this book, you’re definitely going to want to get it. But, until you do, take a listen…




The #staymarried PODCAST - a brand new series featuring The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

Criticism is a relationship killer. But, the good news is that it is a behavior and behavior can change. If you’ve been in the habit of criticizing and using “You” statements, here’s a little chart that might help you enter into your arguments a little bit more softly… (PIN IT so you can come back to it later)

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Tony and Michelle Peterson #staymarriedIf you’re NEW HERE, check out our About Page and read a little more about my own background on our first post. You can also find us on the socials: PinterestTwitterFacebook, and Instagram. I’d love to connect on any of your favorite platforms.

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~ Michelle

4 thoughts on “Ep. 4 of The #staymarried Podcast: Criticism is a Relationship Killer

  1. Hi Michelle & Tony
    Greetings from Melbourne in Australia! I’ve been reading your blog for a bit over a year now and the podcasts have been great addition – both for their content and for the chance to hear you guys & how you interrelate.
    I’m not married but have been in my first long-term relationship for almost 2 years now. Your website has been a valuable resource and has led me to follow-up other resources too.
    I mainly wanted to say thanks for all the time and effort you put into researching and sharing your experience by blogging and now podcasting!

  2. Looking Not desperately seeking help and advice…. Married 19 yrs. 10 rocky yrs. 54 yr old male here. In June an affiar I was having was exposed. Wife is hurt as I well know she would be. I am home living in the basement. And it has been hell. Her answer to save marriage is a seperation. Which I feel will end it for good. The thought of leaving is killing me we have. 14 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son. By his is killing me …. Any advice vis welcome !!

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