After my last post, I was challenged to move past the concept of the love languages and offer some practical tips. So, here goes…
Five tips for each of the
Five Love Languages
Words of Affirmation
- Be specific. Instead of “You look great” try “I really like your hair like that” or “Those jeans make your butt look good.”
- Send a text, just because.
- When you buy a gift, WRITE something personal in the card.
- Compliment your spouse to your friends.
- Compliment your spouse to your kids.
- Turn off your mobile device (laptop, iPad, smart phone) during dinner or on a date. Better yet – leave it in another room.
- Ask about their day and don’t be distracted while they answer.
- Ask them on a date and plan it out – babysitter, restaurant, a walk in the city.
- Block out time on your calendar, even without specific plans, just to be together. Don’t let your time get gobbled up by plans with other people.
- Take a walk in your own neighborhood after dinner, removing yourselves from the usual busyness and chores of being home.
- Get them something they can enjoy, not just something they need.
- Remember their favorite candy and pick it up as you leave the grocery store.
- Wrap a small gift – even when it’s not their birthday or holiday.
- DO NOT forgo a gift on a birthday or holiday.
- Build a collection – make a tradition of a certain type of gift over time.
Acts of Service
- Take care of a chore that’s typically on their list.
- Wash and clean out the car they usually drive.
- Finish that home improvement task that’s been lingering.
- Open the door for her – rush to get there before her!
- Warm up the car and scrape the windshield in the winter.
- Run your fingers through her hair, or scratch her head.
- Sit close on the couch when you’re watching your favorite show.
- Squeeze tighter and longer than usual when you hug.
- Hold hands when you’re in the car together.
- Initiate sex and focus on serving your spouse when you’re in bed.
Tony and I came up with these just by bouncing ideas back and forth one afternoon. The reality is, your spouse will be the best person to share with you what you can do to express love to them. Ask them about this list. Ask them if any of these ideas appeal to them. We’d love to hear some of your tips, too! Feel free to share your tips, ideas, and experiences below in the Comments section. We’re learning these love languages because we want to show love in a way our spouse can appreciate so that we can #staymarried.