“I used to think miscarriage and infant loss were women’s issues,” Adriel told us. “But, after going through this with my own husband, I see that these things impact both men and women, and your entire family and community.”
On October 25, 1988, then President Ronald Reagan dedicated the entire month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (P.A.I.L.). We’ve since learned that roughly 1 in 4 women will or have experienced a miscarraige in their lifetime. As high as that statistic is, and with an international awareness campaign picking up steam since the 80’s, it is still uncommon to hear real stories of what this experience does to a family.
Ryan and Adriel Booker generously share their experience with grief and loss and also hope. After experiencing 3 miscarriages, they reflect on their journey and share much wisdom for the rest of us. Whether you’ve experienced miscarriage and loss in your own life or not, statistically speaking you know someone who has and this episode will shine a light on what it’s really like and how to navigate these rough waters with your marriage intact.
About the Bookers
Ryan and Adriel Booker lead an urban YWAM ministry together in the heart of Sydney, Australia. They have three beautiful (loud, spirited, sensitive, hilarious) boys around their dinner table and three little ones in heaven. Their other “son” is Frankie the pup, who thinks he’s human.
Adriel sometimes wonders how she got completely buried in boys but is thankful they have Coco the kitty to help balance out all the man power in the place. (She only wishes Coco wasn’t so afraid of all the boys. Where’s the #girlpower?) In their spare time, Ryan likes to create things Adriel can’t find space for in the house, and Adriel likes to rearrange furniture at convenient times like 10:00pm on Tuesday night.
Adriel is the author of Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and together Ryan and Adriel have a passion to see God’s goodness known among the earth through whatever opportunities they’re given.
Please enjoy our conversation with Ryan and Adriel.
Journaling Our Scarlett Stories
Seeing the healing power of sharing her own stories and also reading countless other men and women share their stories, Adriel has generously created a guide for those processing their own grief after miscarriage and loss. You can access that free resource here.
#staymarried After Hours
For the sake of time, we needed to cut our conversation with the Bookers a little short on this interview, but we continued it on our new side-show #staymarried After Hours. There, Ryan and Adriel shared more about how they worked to keep their marriage intact during this grieving process as well as how they included their young children in their mourning. You can learn more about #staymarried After Hours and how you can support #staymarried through Patreon here.
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