S3 E15 | Estranged: Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members

Estranged - Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members #staymarriedFamily relationships can be complicated. In this episode of The #staymarried Podcast we answer a question from Ask #staymarried:

“Hey there Tony and Michelle,
My name is Tony also and my wife and I have been married for 8 years. Our marriage is strong and I have to say that listening to your podcasts is refreshing because of your candor and transparency. Here’s something I haven’t heard you two talk about and was wondering if you would consider addressing… estranged relationships with your parents.

My wife’s family is far away and we don’t see them much, but my family is fairly close yet are not very involved in our lives. We have a little boy and an even littler girl, and I sometimes wonder if my parents even care. I think I’d like for our kids to have doting grandparents like our friends around us seem to have, but I’m not sure if this is realistic. Do you think this absence is going to hurt our family in the future? You guys seem happy… do you have grandparents you want to loan us?”

Mr. Tony, we wish we had grandparents to loan you. Instead, we’ll share how we navigate our own tough family members. We hope it helps…

Listen to “S3 Ep15: Estranged” on Spreaker.

Also, Tony asked me if there was a book I’ve read multiple times. I shared two, and he shared one of his own. Here are the links.

Michelle’s Rec’s

Them – by Joyce Carol Oates

Them - Joyce Carol Oates

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by Dr. John Gottman


Tony’s Rec

The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

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~ Michelle



One thought on “S3 E15 | Estranged: Healthy Ways to Navigate Tough Family Members

  1. Tony!
    Thank you so much for sharing the story about your relationship with your parents. I related *****100%***** to that phone call you had with your father on Father’s Day. It is comforting to hear that I’m not the only one with my brand of weirdo parents 😉 (My husband’s parents are thebomb.com–super flexible/giving/understanding people, etc. They (and my husband) have been in my life since 9th grade and I used to escape my home (after a rough fight) to walk the mile to their house in High School. Interestingly enough, now that we are in our 30’s the differences between both sets of parents are still, kind of there.)

    Luckily my parents do have these amazing, fun, loving, sometimes EVEN relatable sides. They are the ones who brought my sis and I to Jesus. I am THANKFUL for them as parents, 100%. We have that foundation now as adults because we’ve always had Christ in our lives.

    However, my sis and I are rarely “good enough” for them and it can hurt! Especially since we have tried so hard to grow up and do life right and responsibly, ya know?

    Doing things with my parents as adults always has hurdles, red tape, rules we must follow, kind of like you said when traveling to see them. (My husband and I don’t even have kids yet, but we are expecting our first right now. *Suddenly* my step mom is reaching out more to check on me.)

    Like you and Michelle said, we do our part as their kids. We expect awkwardness but we still try, right?

    Just wanted to share with you that Ifeelyouman and I want to encourage you with your folks to stay strong, patient and loving to them like you have been! It is so hard and sometimes is hurtful/disappointing. You can do it!! Luckily for both of us we have these wonderful spouses who can help us vent and laugh about it. It’s all we can do sometimes.

    —Katie Greene (I might meet you guys one day at GLC. I hope your move has/is going smoothly and I thank you guys for your podcast!)

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