S3 E5 | The Perils of our Late Night Fights

The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast“Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

“Don’t go to bed angry.”

“Even if you’re mad, say I love you before you go to sleep.”

Haven’t we all heard some version of this marriage advice?

This Ask #staymarried qustion comes from Brooke. She says…

Hey Tony and Michelle, can you help me understand something?

My husband and I got into an argument the other night after the kids went to bed. I won’t even get into what it was about because it WAS SO DUMB. I was tired, I just wanted to go to bed, but we both kept saying awful things to each other. I finally told him I was done trying to figure it out, I needed to go to bed and sleep on it. But then he pulled out the big guns: he said what he always says in these situations…

“Nope. We are figuring this out. We can’t let the sun go down on our anger.”

So, then I felt guilty for wanting to go to sleep, but I also felt like everything I said didn’t make sense because I was so tired. Can you tell me why it’s so important to settle all your fights before you go to bed? I feel like I’m going crazy when things escalate so late at night and I just don’t get it.

Please help,


Dearest Brooke,
Thanks for trusting us with this. For this episode of The #staymarried Podcast, Tony and I did our best to bring some clarity to this age old advice. Enjoy…

Listen to “S3 E5: The Perils of Our Late Night Fights” on Spreaker.

My Darling, if you truly love me, please let me sleep. - The #staymarried Podcast

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The Perils of our Late Night Fights - The #staymaried Podcast